Flame bending is being able to control the flame on a candle, making it grow, shrink, split, still, wave, whatever you want it to do.
Paper in the water is being able to move a piece of paper around on the top of water in different directions, this is considered easier than moving paper on a table as there is less friction, so definitely one exercise to try at first.
And the mist was a whitish colour, i was visualizing fire because that is my source of energy that i like to focus on, but what appeared was lines of mist travelling between my hands.
And dont be sorry, ask away. I love talking about psychokinetic things.
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