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Originally Posted by Neville
I only ask because in this life there are those who I never wish to stop loving and it pains me to think that may have to in order for creation to continue it's recycling.
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I believe our soulmates are w/us throughout eternity ...
We incarnate w/them in each new life ...
With that said, I have never stopped loving my late husband or said good-bye nor did he during an ADC at the time of his death ...
During the ADC, I was overwhelmed w/of peace, joy & giddiness to the point of giggling unexplicably ...
I heard him telepathically say he loved me & the kids, it was a car accident & a few other things, but not good-bye ...
To this day, I always tell him I love him & I'll see you when I get there ...
As for saying good-bye to others, some choose not to ...
My widowed friends who were caretakers each said their spouse died as they were doing something away from them: stepping into the bathroom, leaving the room to inquire about tests, meds, etc; going to get a meal or leaving for home to shower & change clothes or get some sleep ...
Whether they were actively dying in hospice or at home, each spouse choose not to say good-bye - they simply left ...
My husband was killed 3 miles from home around midnight when I should've been asleep ...
I saw the lights from emergency vehicles on the freeway, but I didn't know it had anything to do w/him nor was I aware of it during the ADC ...
The last thing he said was to go to bed b/c I had a big day ahead ...
The police informed me of his death the following day b/c he had his old out of state driver's license on him; his boss had to fly into to town to identify him ... Whew!
He still sends signs 7 yrs later, our dog can detect him as well as our new puppies. I've watched as all 3 stare for minutes in the same direction happily wagging their tails at what seems to be nothing ...
My adult kids tell me of signs & random things happening to them; they believe its their Dad & I do also ...
Sometimes, we receive similar signs on the same day as we're apart ...
One Sunday evening as I was cooking family dinner to celebrate his B-day, each kiddo walked in the door excited to tell me about the sign they received from Dad earlier in the day; a KC bumper sticker, picture of Joe Montana, a person wearing a KC jacket, cap or T-shirt ...
In the SW states, the popular football teams are the Arizona Cardinals, Dallas Cowboys & Denver Broncos not the Kansas City Chefs - oops, I mean KC Chiefs ...
Rarely, does one see anything pertaining to them in these parts ...
All in one day was pret-ty amazing ...
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross proposed the now famous "Five Stages of Grief" in her 1969 book titled "On Death & Dying" ...
The 5 stage grief process is organic - truly a God send ...
It prepares a person to cope w/their impending death to depart peacefully as well as comfortably leave their loved ones to complete their life ...
During this process, I believe they are made aware they will have the ability to see &/or be w/their family & friends in spirit ...
This model is also used for the survivors of the deceased ...
Strangely enough, we lived in Escondido, CA at the same time as Elizabeth when my husband was followed home by a drunk man w/road rage ...
Anyway, I sharply took notice of changes in my husband ...
His behavior triggered my instincts (sometimes in the pit of my stomach) as well as my brain trying to make a connection to decades old stored information on her research ...
I was able to identify all 5 stages in the year leading up to his death by researching her work again ...
However, I'm certain his grief process was different in some respects from someone actively dying & aware of it ...
I believe he knew something very important would happen to him in the near future, but I don't think he knew it would be his death ...
On the last day of his life his friends all said he was remarkably happy ...
The last person he was with told him he was the happiest man in the world, he had a loving wife, wonderful kids, his career/earnings were booming, 49 healthy years old & he couldn't ask for anything more ...
I still smile when I recall his friend telling me he said all these loving words while he walking around on his hands to prove he was still young ...
My beloved was most definitely at peace ...
Rest assured you will be too ...