something i found on runners

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[miss_believed]

Originally Posted by WhiteHorse55

Is it that difficult to jus let the connection 'be'

Sometimes I think they need a break too - jus like us !

And yes the raw food diet has greatly helped - people tell me to get checked for a sensitive stomach! Only I know what this is all about.

WH55

oh my stomach! lol thats why i started raw! and the other effects came along and i was like wow this has cleared my mind.

[Xan]

Originally Posted by WhiteHorse55

Is it that difficult to jus let the connection 'be'

Often, yes... just letting the love be isn't all that comfortable at first, but we can get used to it.


Xan

Originally Posted by Xan

Often, yes... just letting the love be isn't all that comfortable at first, but we can get used to it.

I literally laughed out loud the other day when I was talking to a spiritual advisor and I made the statement "This was just regular telepathy with the energy exchange thing, none of the weird stuff."

Apparently with patience and willingness, a person can get used to anything!

Lol Dulce, thank you for sharing, now I need to use the powder room! Haha

Originally Posted by mystical

Anyone with a level of spiritual awareness has trouble understanding how two people can experience a deep soul connection, share the bliss, joy and divine love that these relationships offer- only to have one partner run.
The mind, heart, soul… no aspect of our being comprehends this. Someone would choose to leave the most amazing thing that can happen between individuals? Yes, they do… we’re calling them Runners.
Runners seem to reach a road block. After a period of ecstasy and connection, the Runner leaves. It can be sudden, or there can be a gradual distancing. Either way, they leave the “aware” partner in the dust- shaken to the core and confused.
What we don’t talk about a lot- because there is little information on Runners, is that they experience a different kind of shock.
A Runner runs for complex reasons but an element they all have in common is that they are thrown-off by the intensity of the relationship. They do not have time to adapt, it’s there right off the bat, the whole ‘soul package’. They don’t intellectually understand it. They feel it, but that’s the problem. Their head and heart/soul are not in alignment.
These same people would be comfortable sticking around if it was no more than physical chemistry. They would be ok if it was only friendship. They would probably be ok if it had been a slow evolution from curiosity to lust to friend to relationship to “soul partner”.
What they can’t wrap their head around is that in one human being (their Soul-Mate/Twin Flame) they are presented with a package that includes all of those things- at the start. No effort required.
They can’t process how this can exist! Even if they believe in such a thing as an ideal soul-mate, they aren’t spiritually prepared to face him/her so they back off & artificially generate a “slow evolution”.
Think of it this way. If they did not feel the same intensity as their partner, they’d be there. Does that sound backwards? Going into shock makes people do things they wouldn’t do in any other circumstances.
Runners can’t seem to explain their own behavior. They don’t know why they act the way they do… if you can get them to talk while they’re in the heat of the confusion, you might hear “I’ve never acted like this in my life. I can’t explain it. I don’t know who I am anymore or why I’m behaving this way. This is not the man/woman I am. I don’t know what’s wrong with me”.
They seem aware they are not themselves but are helpless to stop.
It is a process. It’s tempting to call Runners stupid, isn’t it? What is obvious to us is confusing to them. What is joyful to us is frightening to them. They are fearful that what they feel is not real, that they are making it up & nobody could possibly love them that much. Surely it must be a trick.
They are fearful that if they say yes to a relationship, it could crumble and they could never recover. If they didn’t mutually love their Soul Mate/Twin Flame, they wouldn’t have the fear. Do you see? You can’t loose what you don’t choose.
So you see, while it seems ridiculous, the soul-shock a Runner causes is because they are in shock themselves.
If it gives you any peace, imagine your Runner interacting with anybody BUT you. In your mind’s eye see them. A normal person behaving normally, right?
Does this not tell you that either one of two things are happening? Either this is not your Soul-Mate/Twin-Flame and they are an idiot and you can be happy that they have left.
Or… this is indeed a high level Soul Mate/Twin-Flame whose soul did recognize you, but their mind needs time to catch up.

I guess this makes me a runner.

[John Elessar]

And makes me the Eternal Stayer. Your post was dead solid on, mystical, I think that is exactly what happened to the woman I met in New Jersey 14 years ago (a weekend of bliss-we'd joke that we were "dating ourselves"-followed by a week of distance and then a phone call from her shutting it all down)-she said that what we had didn't "seem real". Even reading your post (half a dozen times now) I still don't quite get it tho-how can you possibly turn your back on the Grand Adventure with not much more than a second thought? And not even give it some time to truly see what it is that you have? And to call me, no face-to-face? I mean, the Connection is what is truly real-I mean, throwing away the garbage, buying milk and cereal, watching mindless TV shows-all that stuff is the illusion.

Having said all that, were I to be totally honest with myself, if she had stayed around for a month or so _I_ probably would have become the Runner. And I certainly didn't make any effort to put the brakes on when I had the chance (and of all the things we did talk about during that weekend our spiritual beliefs were not one of them). And I had a career crisis which was coming to a head the next year and by shifting from science to teaching (with several months of underemployment) I probably would have lost her anyway.

I Googled her last month, and she is engaged. Hope this guy can live up to my legacy, such as it is, but I suspect/worry that he is Mr. Milquetoast, nice and safe and unchallenging (but I presume). I'm actually glad that Ms. Recent showed her true colors early on before we got to that stage, as she undoubtedly would have done the same exact thing.

This culture simply doesn't recognize anything higher than materialism, and unless you are willing to bravely push yourself sternly against this massive tide of cultural inertia and sincerely search, on your own before the Meeting, for something more transcendent, you'll never get a single inkling of something greater than yourself until He or She shows up and threatens to dismantle your entire paradigm. I guess I get it now.

i love this article x

[Liladeryn]

Im actually whats considered "the runner" ..Im the aware one out of both of us and I can understand it all completely intellectually etc etc..I can explain my behavior and Im far from stupid..Sometimes things just cant be and there are other things in life that may just have to come before this whole Tf thing

[Quest]

Originally Posted by Liladeryn

Im actually whats considered "the runner" I dont agree with alot of it..Im the aware one out of both of us and I can understand it all completely intellectually etc etc..I can explain my behavior and Im far from stupid..Sometimes things just cant be and there are other things in life that may just have to come before this whole Tf thing

Now you tweaked my curiosity! lol

How can you understand running from an intellectual point of view? I don't think anyone wanted to imply that runners are stupid, they choose to run for a reason, and I think we all have a bit of a runner inside of us at times.

So what other things for example would prevent you from staying with your TF and why would they explain the running? I'm really just curious. I don't think we get to chat with a real runner on this forum too often, so I'd love to hear a bit more from you if you don't mind sharing. I'm dealing with a runner and am trying to understand him better, even though I won't stress over it either. Acceptance leads to peace inside rather than letting my mind race and try to rationalize and analyze it all.