I am having my doubts about like attracts like

[girlsearching]

I'm a Low vibrational being ; I lack self confidence and I'm afraid to try new things and get out my comfort zone . I don't really smile and usually walk with my head down . If I had a super power it would be invisibility .

[girlsearching]

I'm a Low Vibrational person. I work as a Lunch Lady at a elementary school, I take the City bus to work. I Don't know how to drive or have my temps or liscience . My family epsically my Grandpa is always telling me how it's important for me to learn how to Drive and he even offered to pay for me to get lessons . I know my family means well but I have to want to learn on my own terms . I'm introverted and I Lurk on other people's FaceBook accounts . For instance I have a crush on a neighborhood Acquaintance (cause that is what he is ) I was never in a relationship, or dated him . It's just a one - sided crush on my end on a guy from my Hometown . I'll go on his Girlfriend's page and Snoop on her Face book account. I wish I was my neighbor's type that he likes but I'm not. I don't attract men who are my peers . I get along great with older people I can conversate with them just fine.
I get what I get from the universe for being the way I am . I don't know how to change or maybe I'm more scared to become a better version of myself and the results of it.

[MikeS80]

Originally Posted by girlsearching

I'm a Low Vibrational person. I work as a Lunch Lady at a elementary school, I take the City bus to work. I Don't know how to drive or have my temps or liscience . My family epsically my Grandpa is always telling me how it's important for me to learn how to Drive and he even offered to pay for me to get lessons . I know my family means well but I have to want to learn on my own terms . I'm introverted and I Lurk on other people's FaceBook accounts . For instance I have a crush on a neighborhood Acquaintance (cause that is what he is ) I was never in a relationship, or dated him . It's just a one - sided crush on my end on a guy from my Hometown . I'll go on his Girlfriend's page and Snoop on her Face book account. I wish I was my neighbor's type that he likes but I'm not. I don't attract men who are my peers . I get along great with older people I can conversate with them just fine.
I get what I get from the universe for being the way I am . I don't know how to change or maybe I'm more scared to become a better version of myself and the results of it.

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.

[ocean breeze]

Originally Posted by girlsearching

I get what I get from the universe for being the way I am . I don't know how to change or maybe I'm more scared to become a better version of myself and the results of it.

Might be easier if you can forgive yourself. Little by little. Even if you can't right away, you can at least forgive yourself for not being able to forgive yourself. No need to love yourself either. Being able to forgive oneself i feel is more important for growth than self love.


Not sure what you seek more, change or growth as a person. Not the same. Growth doesn't always produce change and change doesn't always produce growth. No need to answer here. Just something to think about.


I feel almost no one changes deep down. They just become better at hiding themselves. Good luck.

[markings]

Originally Posted by Flexi-Girl

Sometimes common sense is missing in spiritual teachings.

Of course, because they are spiritual teachings and not worldly common ones.
They apply to a 'different' universe, a different cosmic understanding.

When we cross from the earthly realm to the heavenly realm many things reverse, become the opposite.

"All Buddhas depend on two truths
In order to preach the Dharma to sentient beings.
The first is the worldly mundane truth.
The second is the truth of supreme meaning.

If one is not able to know
The distinction between the two truths (my emphasis)
One cannot know the true meaning
Of the profound Buddha Dharma."

from the Mulamadhyamakakarika Chapt 24 Vers 8 and 9

The bolded text is the key and too many spiritual teacher have never found it.

Originally Posted by markings

Of course, because they are spiritual teachings and not worldly common ones.
They apply to a 'different' universe, a different cosmic understanding.

So...are you saying that your spirituality and your physical life are different things, different compartments of your ontic?...As if you lead a spiritual life separate from your physical life?

My life is my spirituality and in living it I'm often called upon to exercise common sense.
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[markings]

Originally Posted by Lorelyen

So...are you saying that your spirituality and your physical life are different things, different compartments of your ontic?...As if you lead a spiritual life separate from your physical life?

My life is my spirituality and in living it I'm often called upon to exercise common sense.
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Not quite. My comments is based on the Two Truths theory Of Buddhism.
The two Truths were then followed by a Third Truth which states that the Two Truths are one and the same. The two Truths are different viewpoints of one and the same thing.
I think we can all agree that if we change our fundamental viewpoint we may see things differently even when looking at the same thing.
The two Truths are not contradicting but complement each other.

However, and that is a most important thing. When something is said we need to know from viewpoint it was said, otherwise it becomes nonsense.

[markings]

Originally Posted by markings

However, and that is a most important thing. When something is said we need to know from viewpoint it was said, otherwise it becomes nonsense.

As an example let's take this line from the Dao Te Ching:

"The sage, by doing nothing gets everything done."

From a worldly viewpoint (physical, intellectual) that is clearly nonsense.
From a celestial viewpoint (mental, spiritual) it is different. By doing nothing in the mental, spiritual realm, procrastination, self-criticism, goal orientated thinking, upholding resentments, old hurts, prejudices, not seeking even enlightenment, but moving above these things, he gets everything done that needs to be done in the worldly realm.

[Flexi-Girl]

Originally Posted by markings

As an example let's take this line from the Dao Te Ching:

"The sage, by doing nothing gets everything done."

From a worldly viewpoint (physical, intellectual) that is clearly nonsense.
From a celestial viewpoint (mental, spiritual) it is different. By doing nothing in the mental, spiritual realm, procrastination, self-criticism, goal orientated thinking, upholding resentments, old hurts, prejudices, not seeking even enlightenment, but moving above these things, he gets everything done that needs to be done in the worldly realm.

I guess my initial post is that people often look to grand spiritual answers in their lives when a more mundane answer is likely the most helpful answer.

Not always but usually.

I get it reality is boring and mundane.

Originally Posted by markings

Not quite. My comments is based on the Two Truths theory Of Buddhism.
The two Truths were then followed by a Third Truth which states that the Two Truths are one and the same. The two Truths are different viewpoints of one and the same thing.
I think we can all agree that if we change our fundamental viewpoint we may see things differently even when looking at the same thing.
The two Truths are not contradicting but complement each other.

However, and that is a most important thing. When something is said we need to know from viewpoint it was said, otherwise it becomes nonsense.

As your beliefs they're valid for you but we have to allow for their limits outside the Buddhist 'sphere'.
Asking someone to change their fundamental, i.e. not superficial or conditioned, viewpoint is a big ask. It can a) take a lot of time and b) not always give a useful result. Our viewpoints are a product of our experiences, our transactions with the ecology (which includes people - normal or abnormal) and may include degrees of latitude.
Imagination lets us visualise other viewpoints but changing a long-held one is a different matter. We can expand our awareness and possibly adopt others' views (depending what they concern, obviously, and whether a revision is advantageous to us).

The rest seems to be playing with words. If two seeming different things are in fact the same thing it comes down to how we describe them and the intellectual operations we use to make them the same thing. With abstracts like truth, words are inadequate. Like the word "love", truth has no meaning beyond individuals' beliefs.

I doubt your last sentence though. Differing viewpoints are often the subject of argument - all may be valid so I'd say it's more important to be aware of context before claiming one to be nonsense which would be very rare. (Interesting to note that some of the spiritual "teaching" I've seen on the internet and talked about here is nonsensical in that it doesn't make sense - false logic, assumption, contradiction among other things. But then, I suppose that's why we're here, trying to sort out what's what.)

It's an interesting point but does depend on someone believing the "two truths theory" of Buddha to use your words. As my beliefs arise from different sources I've come to different conclusions. There is no universal truth. We resolve truth at individual level.
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