How do I make peace with being single?

[Emmalevine]

Moonstar - I've pmed you.

I wouldn't say I've found my way to complete wholeness as I still get lonely on my own. I think I've reached a point where I can function and I find fulfulment in my creativity and goals which is my personal definition of what it means to be 'whole.' It doesn't mean the loneliness disappears overnight, or at least in my case it hasn't. It means wanting a relationship but not feeling desperate for one. Humans are social animals, after all. It means being able to function alone and not spending my life waiting for 'the one.' Since my life circumstances have brought me to a very isolated place, I have had to learnt to like my own company and feel good about who I am despite all the difficult things life has brought to me. I think that's the key, really.

Spectrum - If you have a porn addiction then that could well be making your need for a relationship far worse. I don't know what you've been reading but trying to go cold turkey on an addiction might reinforce the problem as you'll still be focussed on it. You could try focussing your energy on other things in life - set some goals as I said before, such as starting a college course or project. When the mind is busy with other things the addiction won't be such a big deal. After all, what are addictions but attempts to fill a void. Fill your personal void with productive stuff that make you feel good in more helpful ways. There's nothing wrong with porn per sae, but the addiction is harmful. Put your energy in following your dreams and then the rest of your life will match the more productive energy you're giving out. Whatever you do, don't make the porn into a problem, just take your mind elsewhere. Good luck!