Narcissists and Aging

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Hello

For those who have experienced dealing with narcissists - do you find that the older narcissists get, the more those abusive and toxic traits get exacerbated?

Why is that - it appears as if those traits were lesser toned (but still apparent) during younger - but the more they age, the more it is as if they can't be bothered hiding it anymore?

With a toxic and abusive family member, I find myself increasingly hiding away certain professional and personal goals from her. I had to actually guard myself from slipping any more even just casual, positive comments about work or anyone I work with - lest she would pick a non-existent fault or insist on some fault that is non-existent until I got either confused or demoralized

Thus I kept certain things to myself, esp away from the prying ears of narcissist. Lest she would try to elaborate some isolation or sabotage tactic (typically what narcs do)