At what point do you let go?

[Starman]

For me it is not about mistakes, rather it is about pain and trust. How deep they
hurt me and can I continue to trust them. If they help me heal the pain the relationship
may be redeemable. There are expectations in a relationship, love may be unconditional
but relationships are based on certain conditions.

If I stay with a person who keeps hurting and disappointing me I am normalizing that
behavior in our relationship, and normalizing such behavior may be unhealthy. The other
person has got to want to sincerely work on the relationship with me otherwise the
relationship may not grow, and it may even become and unhealthy relationship.

There are lots of different types of intimate relationships, i.e. a codependent relationship,
a counter-dependent relationship, and apathetic relationship, etc. These are all examples
of unhealthy relationships. Most often when a person can't let go it is because they are
emotionally enmeshed with the other person, for one reason or another, and do not have
healthy boundaries.