Many ways to love

[JustBe]

The many ways we love. ��

In my reflections of late on conditioned love, I’ve been looking closely at patterns served to us, from our most closest models/carer’s but also our love needs that were not met, in those conditioned spaces of love. As we grow and deepen into self realisation journey, we can see how love through our models, didn’t always fill those spaces in us the way we needed, especially the more highly sensitive empaths, who were raised by less sensitive, in tune parents.

Through the letting go / surrender process, where we can enter that place of emptiness (free from conditioning) we embark on the walk back to more authentic love. This walk back to love, opens up the need space of love for self and those we engage with differently. We notice how our old needs of love no longer serve us, no longer build deeper connected quality experiences. The emptiness is a beautiful point of becoming, the shedding, and release back to nothing, to awaken everything we are beyond those old markers of love. No longer bound by old patterns, conditioned love, we begin to resurrect our true state and the true art of love more aligned to our true self. The place where we begin to seek and build relationships with life around us, that do support us, are more aligned to our new way of being which consequently bridges new ways of love, support and care.

In my own experience, as a seeker, opening to my true nature,letting go of old patterns of love and opening to love more aware of loving kindness, compassion and respect, without underlying fears and containment’s, I’ve had to learn to open more truthfully in the face of others still contained by walls and fears. Understanding yourself more clear and loving, understanding your needs and awareness of others more clear, those old entanglements, now become a place of resurrection. Your own, to be more open and connected, flowing with, rather than blocking that flow. Where fear to feel and stay present with all things moving through the shared space. For a sensitive this runs deep and vast. For a highly sensitive these times when we are not clear and grounded can feel like the weight of the world impeding upon us.

In this presence you allow yourself to practice and continue to free your mind/body in the old conditioniing, to fall away. Emotional reactions, needs that cling and attach, expectations of others, desires where we try to make others be something they cannot be. Allowing yourself to bear witness to the whole array of infringments, that have created this mind/body as a conditioned source of love and releasing those binds. In the end, in your becoming you give the shared space, not only the attention you need to be more connected, but the other. You can look more consciously aware in truth, at your patterns to change the way you believe you need to be. For the true seeker it’s a very conscious mindful practice to bridge a greater degree of change and a greater degree of balance from within. For the highly sensitive empath it becomes a way of living more connected where one no longer fears life that shatters and breaks our hearts. Where the beautiful gift of sensitivity is embraced as open deep feeling, sensitive to itself and others in every way it feels and sees.

Many associate the meditation practice and teachings to support this undoing with presence to allow everything to fall away, be released, so the mind body is freed of its own containment.

In my own practice it’s in my every day lived experience that I am now open to being. It’s living more attentive to yourself and life to build a more quality of presence with all life. It becomes a way to end those old patterns that contain us, keep us isolated or only connected where it’s safe to feel and be loving.

In the fallout from love, we learn of our fractured and broken hearts. We learn how we contain and hold back our true feelings. We stop being fully present in our bodies and listen to what everything we see and feel, seeks of us. Our protective walls in the old patterns, continue to grasp onto the old models of love. We fear to live differently, drop those walls from old patterns and face the truth of those life moments around self love and loving others.

I am learning through my wise self to speak the truth, not only if myself aware, but the truth of situations I experience with others. When your more clear and open to your true loving self, others can gain with your presence. Every connection, an opportunity to grow deeper in the art of true and authentic love.

If you see the truth, the wise self through it’s loving kindness and compassion can model and assist those difficult moments in the world we each participate in.
To recognise those patterns as yourself to support the other and you in becoming more open and clear in the art of love and loving others.

We each love through the many streams of old models. Whether those models were contained in the ways I mentioned, or more open, caring and loving in compassionate living kindness, these become the many streams of love. This became our art of love. The many ways we show love. Our earliest foundations paving the way. Our earliest models modelling how they chose to love. Each of us learning through love and it’s hidden containment’s. For the highly sensitive empath, this becomes a skewed reality of love, a path where the deeper levels within us seek to know love differently. Be loved differently.

The art of love in its many forms requires a base of shared openness. Open communication where all are willing to be open and listen. Open and present with what is before you. Attentive even as it may not be right, others cannot see what you see, feels differently to you. It’s through an open receptive state of being, we let everything sit in us, we let go of ourselves to listen attentively to everything being shared. When you do this, you begin to notice where you are distracted, wandering into your needs, projecting them into the needs of the other, impeding the natural movement of change and deeper loving relationships.

Those who are aware and more open, will at times be challenged by those who are still stuck in those old patterns. The journey of true and authentic love,at times, will be very foreign to them. It’s through presence, listening and open honest communication we yield a greater capacity of change for all. It’s through your own open state, it offers natural reflections of positive change to be born.

Coercing, forcing, controlling, dominating through old patterns of fear and self gain alone, cannot merge a greater expanse of love, loving kindness and compassion. Empathy requires surrender, understanding requires surrender, presence requires surrender.

Surrender requires you to be present with yourself, to understand your patterns, to dig deeper into love without bounds, love as a free spirited true authentic love.

We all deserve to be loved, supported and cared for.
Love becomes an exchange and we become the exchange you wish to receive, when we model a more authentic loving connection.

When love is balanced within, in both giving and receiving, where their are no gaps seeking love through need or desires, expectations or attachments, or force, love becomes clear. Clarity of being comes alive. You move as the balance of love in this light.

It becomes the yin/yang principle, where perfect harmony within ones being understands giving and receiving moves through you as this way. It understands that the reflection of love in that balance,naturally moves in this flow and harmony. It understands itself as the whole shared space.

As a model aware, it understands.