How to be alone

[Gem]

Hello,

I know people struggle with loneliness, but also value solitude, for we are not isolated in our lives, but share a 'connection'. That of us which is alive, that vitality, is of nature herself, so connected to all nature.

In society there is a fundamental construct of what a person is, and as the world moves toward an individualistic paradigm, we build a relationship system which isn'f founded in connection, but founded in the interaction of entirely separate individuals. Hence we can be entirely alone in a crowd, and are even alone in the midst of family and friends - and where our actual aloneness is due to there being no 'other' - our social isolation is due to everyone and everything being other than ourselves.

All that 'otherness' - that sense of disconnection - arises in us as our loneliness - an unbearable isolation. At the core of loneliness is the sense of being unloved, for what is love other than that living connection.

I once heard Mooji say, 'love is the unicity of being' (I like the way he just made up that word) - so to really love is to be alone as it unites one with 'the other'. But that isn't the same as loneliness, where one is apart from - rather than a part of.

Now when it is said that the world needs love, it needs love not in the sentimental sense where I love something other, but in the sense of life's vitality, which is not coming from any other, but pouring from the core of one's being.

We have to feel lonely at times, as I know because I have lived alone for most of my adult life, feeling unloved and feeling unlovable, and I'm pretty sure everyone knows what that is like in their own way, but I also know the outpouring of life, and that all things are seen within love's purity.

Love the world by recognising that the life in yourself is the same life in everything. That's how to be alone.