How can I help my friend?

I'm not sure where to post this but this seems the most relevent place.

My best friend and I went through this journey of enlightenment together. We ate right, meditated , looked after ourselves body & mind. By doing this we woke up to so many things and experienced the greatest things.

I still believe we both had and still do have a lot of old cobwebs and baggage that was not cleared , therefore not allowing the enlightenment to be full. I was aware of this and knew was quite open with the fact that I have issues to deal with. Him, on the other hand has had a much worse life than myself. his childhood was full of abuse and abandonment from his parents, hes suffered a lot of bullying from family and his peers, he was homeless... and more. Despite this I feel hes worked hard on perfecting his skills and his talents and im very proud of him. During the journey that we was on he came across further difficulties in his life , his friend died tragically and he had a bad breakup with his girlfriend. After this its like his life has been chaos since.

He seems to be in a big battle with himself at the moment. At first I thought he was fighting ME and it was all my fault the reason he felt like this (especially with the girlfriend thing as they broke up because she did not approve of our friendship) and he blames me directly sometimes about what is happeneing to him. I know this is mainly because everyone uped and left as soon as things got hard and I am the only one that's there to blame.
one point last year he didnt sleep for nearly a week and was ranting about random things and had to stay at his mums. His family are not very Patience and at that time we're already thinking about sending him to a place to 'help him' and telling him that he was 'sick' which obviously made him worse. He picked himself back up,on and off. Now hes back in it, possibly worse.

The stronger I get and more comfortable I am with myself the more I see that I'm not the problem. I know what it feels like to be traumatized by one event , so i can just about understand that he must be traumatized about the 100 things that have happened to him.


The thing is I know this needs to be dealt with soon. I dont think hes sick I just think the awakening forced him to look deep inside the darkest of places. But his family wont see that. I don't want them to try to get him put away and put on those medicated drugs. The other day I calmed him down just by being warm to him but this is only temporary because as soon as i warm him up he gets scared and keeps away from me, like hes protecting me.

He needs to stop before it gets worse.

I know he needs to talk but I need him to talk without saying mean things to me , not just because its hurtful but Ii feel if he doest he will never talk through the real cause of his problems. Its like he doesnt know how, like he wants to sometimes but stops himself and uses anger to express himself instead.How can I encourage him to talk to me and let all these feelings out, without him using his anger?