Healing of a "bad" person

[green1]

How a bad person like a bully or a serial killer heals himself/herself?

As follows:

Wakes up. Realizes God’s love and loves God. Decides not to be bad anymore. Heals the negativities he/she received (because his/her negativity was caused by these) by spending time in nature, using crystals etc. and forgiving them. Learns that punishment serves no purpose and makes the situation worse and if there is punishment, everybody will be punished because everybody commits faults.

Forgives himself/herself by noticing that he/she committed his/her negativities because he/she did not know about God's love and negativities he/she received contributed to them.

Sounds simple but the whole process may take decades.

[Native spirit]

Being a bad person is sometimes a Learnt behaviour a lot depends on how they were bought up and what they see ,
Nobody is born evil.
Healing is not as easy as it says some are psychiatric issues that need more complex treatment,
Not everything can be cured by medication.


Namaste

[green1]

Originally Posted by Native spirit

Being a bad person is sometimes a Learnt behaviour a lot depends on how they were bought up and what they see ,

@NS: I was just thinking about this. This can perhaps be classified as the negativity that is received from others.

@lazydullard: Good luck!

[green1]

Originally Posted by Native spirit

Being a bad person is sometimes a Learnt behaviour a lot depends on how they were bought up and what they see , ...

Thank you again for this information Native spirit. You can't imagine how this helped me!

Thanks also Miss Hepburn.

[lazydullard]

I was a bully. I need to focus on sobriety or else I'm rotten.

[AngelBlue]

Originally Posted by lazydullard

I was a bully. I need to focus on sobriety or else I'm rotten.

A very honest post.
I was bullied both as a child and as an adult.
I have always said that "bullies" don't even have a clue about how it affects the victims.

BUT

I applaud you for working on sobriety .
I have 2 people in my family that have to work on theirs every single day.
It is NOT easy .

And the main point is that you are NOT rotten.
Please don't keep telling yourself you are rotten .
You are not.

[Miss Hepburn]

Yes, growing up, the negativity we receive from others is 'modeled' to us as the way the world ''is'' ;
the way we are supposed to be in the world.
Then, one day we run across a super kind person and we start to see ...
"Oh, this feels Way better than negativity, criticizing, sarcasm, aggression, anger and mocking...."

[green1]

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

Yes, growing up, the negativity we receive from others is 'modeled' to us as...

Thanks MH, NS and LD!

[green1]

Thanks again Native spirit and Miss Hepburn for reminding me that "it is sometimes learned behavior" in addition to receving negativity.
I can fully forgive negativity now.

People commit negativity because:

1. They ignore God's love.
2. It is learned behavior.
3. They received a lot of negativity.

Nobody commits negativity for no reason.
.

[Miss Hepburn]

And not only learned behavior -but, yes, when people are raised with being ignore, neglected, beaten,
demeaned...they are SO wounded, hurt - often unable to have 'normal healthy, thriving' relationships with
neighbors, partners, pets....because the pain just pours out of them as anger...example is your everyday road rage.

green1, a story for you.

An older lady was angry almost every time I saw her - usually because of the traffic. OMG was she mad, furious!
I said, after 5 times..''Ya know you seem like as a child you had some pretty heavy trauma...that you're now
taking out on people that don't use their signals''
It's being blown out of proportion
She said , Nope.
Of course, I pressed a bit...pretty soon she's crying her eyes out!!
Her story--- that at first she said 'didn't bother' her ...then the crying started...
So she is 4 years old, the family is at a restaurant - she picks up her ice cream bowl to lick. Her mother SLAPS HER FACE!

She has carried this pain for 6 decades stuffed down in her making
her lash out unreasonably all over the place, complaining , irritable with a short fuse....unconsciously.

Having compassion for mean, bad people to me shows wisdom.
(While not condoning the behavior, of course.)
From my experience.