when your twin flame hates you

[twinkle77]

Hey all - how did u all cope through this? i recently wrote him a letter to tell him of my unconditional love towards him, i wished him well as he just had a child and then got married..i felt guided to do this and it would help me get through my feelings..he seemed ok at the time..he said he understood.

Then i saw him few days later, he walked past ignoring me..i asked him if he was ok..he said no and looked at me and he had tears streaming through his face..i tried to apologise to him for causing him upset but he was angry with me and told me to leave it when i told him not to make me feel bad

I called him a week later to try to apologise..when i told him who it was he said ' (my name)..........who?' so he saying he doesn't know me now?? Then he told me he was too busy with wrk so i said ok fine and he said 'ok fine, bye'

Then i saw him at wrk a few times and he just ignores me and when i smiled at him yday he just gave me a stare/look..he is actually kind of scaring me and intimidating..

i know its not easy and he is obviously going through a hard time right now..

i just don't know what i should do/how i should behave when i see him now - please help me beautiful souls!!!

Also its hrd when universe keeps sending signs to me..yesterday at wrk i looked up at the tv and instantly in the subtitles i saw the words 'husband................(his name)' and then literally second later i look up and i see him...is that a sign or what..i was gobsmacked..i don't know what to think of signs sometimes but i'm trusting and keeping faith all the way through this..

i love him so much - but i don't want him to punish me or treat me like this :o(

[Sarian]

Maybe you are coming across as a pest, I know that sounds awful, but the man is married with a new baby. He's starting his life with a new family. He probably doesn't want his wife hearing about this or seeing some woman is constantly talking to him or trying to call, text, whatever... Do you think perhaps you superimpose your own desires of what you wish he would feel about you. For example, you see tears real or imagined and want them to be tears for you, wanting you, desiring you when, in fact, it's not the case at all? And maybe he's having other issues, money, etc...and doesn't want or need someone who he may feel is obsessed with him?

As far as telling him not to make you feel bad....you are responsible for your own feelings. Do not ever expect anyone to make you happy...

It really does sound, to me, that he wants you to just leave him alone. I'm sorry this sounds cold but too often I read things and the people sound very obsessed and stalker like. It's really sad. But that said I understand the feeling of loving and longing for someone so bad, but in hindsight, I wish people could see how they are behaving and how they truly come across. I wish I could have seen myself and what I put myself through. Never again.

I think you should resign yourself to being saved a fate worse than.... whatever you think truly fateful. You seem to have landed yourself an utter neurotic - a mental case.

The scenario you describe doesn't exclude someone being polite even if aloof and bleak. Assuming it did get quite involved, he hasn't the decency, discipline nor the sense of responsibility to act on your anguish. Perhaps he told his new flame and she has prohibited his contact with you. Could that be the case?

If you're seeing him at work, presumably this all got started up at work. Well, the workplace is the very last place to get involved with someone - fine when all is going well but when it turns sour either or both of you may be stigmatised. People around aren't entirely insensitive to workplace politics so it won't make for a comfortable situation.

So count your lucky stars. Imagine what it would have been like had you got deeply involved with him? He's probably stewing in his own mess-up right now. Leave him to it!!

[Awakened Queen]

I think you need to distance yourself and respect his space. He's made it clear that he doesn't want to engage with you. I don't think he hates you. I think he's confused by you and your intense outpouring of emotions for him. Focus on your own healing. Don't rely on the "signs." The signs just reflect back your thoughts. If anything, I think the Universe is pointing to the fact that he's married. He's somebody else's husband.

In this case, I know you want to believe in a fairy tale, but you need to look at the situation clearly. Remove the spiritual aspect from it, so you can see what is actually happening. He is married with a baby. That's all you need to know. Don't push this connection onto him if he's made it clear he doesn't feel the same way. This is your spiritual journey, not his. Keep that in mind through all this.

[twinkle77]

Lorelyen - i have a feeling he has issues he needs to wrk on - he is being quite cold to one of my best friends too now, and ignoring her..even she is not happy with him..what has she done? I am trying really hard to say sorry for upsetting him but he's proper giving me evils..

And honestly i will tell you this that in the beginning, exactly a year ago when i thought we had a special connection (i mentioned this very mildly then too) and then he kept showing me interest until about march this year and then his baby was born end of april..so basically i knew he felt something too and his girlfriend was obviously pregnant all along..then he got married end of june..

i guess maybe i got a bit carried away but i feel like i have known him forever..maybe he feels something but is too scared to admit it..and it's obviously too intense for us both..just to share i am married too so i know it is not the right time for anything serious - i don't think i would want that with him anyway with this behaviour!! I am trying not to judge him - it feels like this is a test for me from the universe to see how i will react to him - and i know i need to be patient and keep showing my unconditional love by not behaving the way he does though i feel like giving him a right earful!!

at wrk he would look at me from afar..wink etc..even my best friend noticed..he would ask abt me when i was away..and always hang around me, i could tell he would come in to the room just to see if i was there..he'd like proper stare at me even while talking to clients..i guess i got swept away there..

i just don't know how he can be so cold towards me - the love i feel for him is so innocent and pure and he knows it too.. I have been so kind to him and he treats me like this :o(

They say soul connections are there to teach you things - i definitely feel like i have learnt to love myself - that is one thing for sure..i have grown immensely and confidence levels is soaring since i met him, so i'm taking this as a positive..i have definitely changed!! even me and hubby were having issues with open communication all these years and things just got a lot better!! i am really content...and i told my connection this too, that i was happy etc etc...just need to get through this palava now..and then let it be..

[TheProfaneAngel]

Originally Posted by twinkle77

Lorelyen - i have a feeling he has issues he needs to wrk on - he is being quite cold to one of my best friends too now, and ignoring her..even she is not happy with him..what has she done? I am trying really hard to say sorry for upsetting him but he's proper giving me evils..

And honestly i will tell you this that in the beginning, exactly a year ago when i thought we had a special connection (i mentioned this very mildly then too) and then he kept showing me interest until about march this year and then his baby was born end of april..so basically i knew he felt something too and his girlfriend was obviously pregnant all along..then he got married end of june..

i guess maybe i got a bit carried away but i feel like i have known him forever..maybe he feels something but is too scared to admit it..and it's obviously too intense for us both..just to share i am married too so i know it is not the right time for anything serious - i don't think i would want that with him anyway with this behaviour!! I am trying not to judge him - it feels like this is a test for me from the universe to see how i will react to him - and i know i need to be patient and keep showing my unconditional love by not behaving the way he does though i feel like giving him a right earful!!

at wrk he would look at me from afar..wink etc..even my best friend noticed..he would ask abt me when i was away..and always hang around me, i could tell he would come in to the room just to see if i was there..he'd like proper stare at me even while talking to clients..i guess i got swept away there..

i just don't know how he can be so cold towards me - the love i feel for him is so innocent and pure and he knows it too.. I have been so kind to him and he treats me like this :o(

They say soul connections are there to teach you things - i definitely feel like i have learnt to love myself - that is one thing for sure..i have grown immensely and confidence levels is soaring since i met him, so i'm taking this as a positive..i have definitely changed!! even me and hubby were having issues with open communication all these years and things just got a lot better!! i am really content...and i told my connection this too, that i was happy etc etc...just need to get through this palava now..and then let it be..

You said "palava." Are you Nigerian? Good luck to you! :)

[twinkle77]

Originally Posted by TheProfaneAngel

You said "palava." Are you Nigerian? Good luck to you! :)

Lol no but my connection is nigerian, didn't know it was a nigerian word haha... i should go up to him and tell him to stop all this palava hehe

[twinkle77]

Hi sarian - thank you for your input as i need to see this through different perspectives..thing is i've not been a pest or a stalker..we have been getting along as friends at wrk..and the letter was not heavy..i wished him well in his life and said i prayed for his happiness and that i cared for him and felt we had a soul connection..maybe this scared him!!..i wrote in the letter i have no expectations from him at all...i didn't know he was married until he told me the day he read the letter..i knew he had just had a baby..

he read the letter and was fine abt it - i asked for the letter back and he said he will keep it...why would he do that? i wish i took it back now then maybe none of this would have happened, he obviously has read it over and over..too late...anyways..looks like he must have re read the letter and is upset now..and i'm really sorry for it but it's done!! I have to handle the consequences!

[Sarian]

Originally Posted by twinkle77

Hi sarian - thank you for your input as i need to see this through different perspectives..thing is i've not been a pest or a stalker..we have been getting along as friends at wrk..and the letter was not heavy..i wished him well in his life and said i prayed for his happiness and that i cared for him and felt we had a soul connection..maybe this scared him!!..i wrote in the letter i have no expectations from him at all...i didn't know he was married until he told me the day he read the letter..i knew he had just had a baby..

he read the letter and was fine abt it - i asked for the letter back and he said he will keep it...why would he do that? i wish i took it back now then maybe none of this would have happened, he obviously has read it over and over..too late...anyways..looks like he must have re read the letter and is upset now..and i'm really sorry for it but it's done!! I have to handle the consequences!

I felt bad as I know I come across harsh. See, I met the man I'm with now and it turned my world upside down and it was a horrible experience to say the least. You probably know I don't believe in this twinflame thing but I experienced something and honestly I could have wrote any number of the posts written here by some, I was that messed up over this encounter. I did not understand and to this day I do not. I should have ran but I didn't I felt like I couldn't. I absolutely made an absolute fool out of myself TIME AND AGAIN! So believe me, I speak from experience. Oddly enough the universe worked it out that now I've been with him for many years now. Just the other day he wanted to break up, but we didn't, now he's super loving to me...have no idea why that even happens from time to time. No clue and it's maddening. But I have to say there are times I just think I'm better off alone and would, myself, like to break up, there it is again, I'm almost paralyzed with fear and at the same time, intense love is back. I have to say the relationship has made me grow but while he wants me to move in with him, at times has asked me to marry him, I don't. I don't want to, I don't know why. I think I like my independence. I've grown leaps and bounds and continue to do so.

Twinkle, I think when I occasionally read here sometimes I want to slap people upside the head because I KNOW what it feels like and I want to say leave it be and get out, get out, get out! I feel like I wasted YEARS...it's a crazy thing. Crazy. And why do I even say that since everything worked out and I'm with him? I think because of all the time wasted. ..but maybe I had to go through it but if I had to do it again. No. I would not. I can't get back those years...but maybe I would have never found the courage to leave my abusive husband? Who knows...maybe it was meant to be this way, still I don't know but I just hurt reading the things I read and while I believe many are experiencing what I did or something like it, some I think have strong infatuations/obsessions...something like that and that, to me, is extremely unhealthy. Anyway, I hope you can move on and know there is someone out there for you and you can have a good and healthy relationship full of love. :-)

[twinkle77]

Awakened queen - thank you for reminding me this..it's my journey and not his..he has his own..

i did get a little lost in fairy tale but i'm back to reality now..the here and now..i just don't like fighting with anyone..i am too much of a peaceful person..

so here i am..maybe it was meant to end this way, could be karmic too, certainly felt it..so much emotions for a year, really intense energies..thought i was honestly going to die with pain and torture!! it has been such a tough year for me. but it feels like a cycle is truly ending..

i wish the best for both of us - even if he is treating me this way right now, hope we can go back to how we were, only time will tell :o(