the magnetic pull of why we fall for people we shouldn't ?

girlsearching · #1 08-07-2014, 04:34 AM

It has occurred to me that the reason why I'm attracted to the type of guys I like because either they have something that I want or lacked. No I'm talking about father issues you know therapist always say that it's because your father was hardly around and that's why you're looking for the void. I have thought about this and honestly my father was never wild like the guys that I like are. Sure he used to drink beer, but not Hennessey or He would tell me stories about how he smoked weed but this was before I came into the world. In 1993 that is when he converted into Islam though so he left that stuff behind him. I guess I don't know why I'm attracted to this one boy he is everything that I should be Leary of he must be my opposite of the zodiac sign either he is a pieces or Aquarian . I'm a Virgo and our chart says we tend to stay away from people and environments that is no good
. I don't know the kid from a hole in the wall but he is just so alluring to me. Not to mention he is a looker too his almond shaped eyes he has those naturally drowsy slanted eyelids and it's his deep dimpled smile the ones that are engraved and predominantly shown. I know that a girl like me shouldn't be liking him at all.

#2 08-07-2014, 07:28 AM

Simple, really....look to Nature.

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girlsearching · #3 08-07-2014, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Lorelyen

Simple, really....look to Nature.

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@Lorelyen what do you mean look to nature?

#4 15-07-2014, 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by girlsearching

It has occurred to me that the reason why I'm attracted to the type of guys I like because either they have something that I want or lacked.

exactly. What is it that he has that you want or lack?

#5 15-07-2014, 12:03 PM

Well it seems like you know what you're potentially getting yourself into. Often people like that will leave a trail of destruction especially with the ones who are closest to them.

LadyMay · #6 15-07-2014, 12:36 PM

For me finding yourself attracted to people you shouldn't indicates there's something inside yourself that you're not accepting. So it's manifesting externally as this problem person. If you can figure out the root and heal it you won't be attracted to these types of people again.

girlsearching · #7 15-07-2014, 11:02 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarlettHayden

For me finding yourself attracted to people you shouldn't indicates there's something inside yourself that you're not accepting. So it's manifesting externally as this problem person. If you can figure out the root and heal it you won't be attracted to these types of people again.

@ScarlettHayden you're right I need to find the root of why I'm attracted to them.

#8 15-07-2014, 01:51 PM

I would also add that if your instinct is telling you to avoid this person it's your higher self looking out for you. And when you feel the pull of their magnetism just remember that you may never get back what they take from you.

Lynn · #9 15-07-2014, 03:44 PM

Hello

I would look to what is missing in yourself that your looking to have completed. At times we are looking for personal growth but when we are in the relationship we do not see that.

I have been with someone 33 years and I am leaving him behind. I was a shy inward nerd and he was a biker and rebel when I went with him. Why was simple he was just what would tick of my over controlling parents. While it lasted 33 years, I grew from the relationship but he never did. He never changed in all that time. He was my path to personal growth and when I met someone that was my match I saw that I grew up and it was time to be free.

I needed to have that path to become whom I am today. So there was that need to be that rebel in me to find that inner strength to know I can walk the life path that is MINE.

Lynn

girlsearching · #10 15-07-2014, 11:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Lynn

Hello

I would look to what is missing in yourself that your looking to have completed. At times we are looking for personal growth but when we are in the relationship we do not see that.

I have been with someone 33 years and I am leaving him behind. I was a shy inward nerd and he was a biker and rebel when I went with him. Why was simple he was just what would tick of my over controlling parents. While it lasted 33 years, I grew from the relationship but he never did. He never changed in all that time. He was my path to personal growth and when I met someone that was my match I saw that I grew up and it was time to be free.

I needed to have that path to become whom I am today. So there was that need to be that rebel in me to find that inner strength to know I can walk the life path that is MINE.

Lynn

@Lynn wow, Thank you for sharing your story. It's related to myself too because I'm a bookworm and I tend to be physically attracted to the rebel type of guys. Only they live a hard life they were raised on the streets.