Why post in the twin flame forum if you don't believe in twin flames?

[LibraIndigo]

Just curious.

: )

[Ghost_Rider_1970]

I would suggest for balance and to help manage expectation. As if it was all about the typical conception and belief regarding the Twin Flames dynamics then there wouldn't be any contrast to compare our inner understanding against.

[Baile]

I believe in soul mates, and I neither believe nor disbelieve in twin flames.

I mostly post when I see TF theory being used as justification for one's continued dysfunctional behavior. One scenario that's becoming prevalent: people who commit emotional adultery with their so-called TF but don't bother telling their marriage partner. And then deflecting all responsibility for their behavior: "It's a TF thing. It's a spiritual connection. I didn't ask for it. I wasn't looking for it. It just happened. It's not my fault. I've done nothing wrong."

Nothing wrong you say? Then why are you sharing your emotional adultery stories online with strangers, instead of with your marriage partner? Oh that's right, your marriage partner would think it's wrong. Yes, you have a life partner, remember? The person you said "I do" to. So it's not just all about you and whatever you think is right.

When I see self-absorbed ego behavior being passed off as spiritually meaningful, I speak up.

[Hawker69]

Originally Posted by Baile

I believe in soul mates, and I neither believe nor disbelieve in twin flames.

I mostly post when I see TF theory being used as justification for one's continued dysfunctional behavior. One scenario that's becoming prevalent: people who commit emotional adultery with their so-called TF but don't bother telling their marriage partner. And then deflecting all responsibility for their behavior: "It's a TF thing. It's a spiritual connection. I didn't ask for it. I wasn't looking for it. It just happened. It's not my fault. I've done nothing wrong."

Nothing wrong you say? Then why are you sharing your emotional adultery stories online with strangers, instead of with your marriage partner? Oh that's right, your marriage partner would think it's wrong. Yes, you have a life partner, remember? The person you said "I do" to. So it's not just all about you and whatever you think is right.

When I see self-absorbed ego behavior being passed off as spiritually meaningful, I speak up.

THIS RIGHT HERE!!!!!!

[LibraIndigo]

Originally Posted by Hawker69

THIS RIGHT HERE!!!!!!

I think I have told someone on this forum they were having an emotional affair but I don't think that is always the case.

The difference is there is a supernatural element to the twin flame relationship.

I agree there are probably a lot of people who think they have met their twin, but indeed are just having an affair.

[Aldous]

Some people who have never met their twin feel threatened when other people discuss it. They're afraid it might be real and can't face it.

Originally Posted by LibraIndigo

I think I have told someone on this forum they were having an emotional affair but I don't think that is always the case.

The difference is there is a supernatural element to the twin flame relationship.

I agree there are probably a lot of people who think they have met their twin, but indeed are just having an affair.

But isn't there to everything?

♥

[SaturninePluto]

Originally Posted by Baile

I believe in soul mates, and I neither believe nor disbelieve in twin flames.

I mostly post when I see TF theory being used as justification for one's continued dysfunctional behavior. One scenario that's becoming prevalent: people who commit emotional adultery with their so-called TF but don't bother telling their marriage partner. And then deflecting all responsibility for their behavior: "It's a TF thing. It's a spiritual connection. I didn't ask for it. I wasn't looking for it. It just happened. It's not my fault. I've done nothing wrong."

Nothing wrong you say? Then why are you sharing your emotional adultery stories online with strangers, instead of with your marriage partner? Oh that's right, your marriage partner would think it's wrong. Yes, you have a life partner, remember? The person you said "I do" to. So it's not just all about you and whatever you think is right.

When I see self-absorbed ego behavior being passed off as spiritually meaningful, I speak up.

Yes and thank you for speaking up.

I feel quite the same, I read stories where an individual is speaking of their tf, and this individual is still staying over nights at the exes.

I have no basic understanding of why people are not asking more of the important questions with their relationships, are too busy blaming others, or themselves, I see the posters posting many thoughts that seem to lack self worth and esteem, control issues where there are chasers and runners, which are usually threads that reek of obsession. Etc.

And just plain adultery and the excuse that there is a strong spiritual connection. There is no spirituality involved when one lies to their significant other prefers to speak to strangers online about the spouse, while all the while these such conversations involve this person, and do indeed involve honesty with them. So much adultery can be completely eradicated merely by the action of standing up being honest and stating honestly our marriage is over- before going out and moving to another- no matter how spiritually connected one feels toward someone. There is no justification for the hatefulness and lack of consideration involved in cheating.

I have never done it, but one does not need a medical degree to realize such an act lacks consideration for the feelings of another.

I have no qualm with twinflame beliefs themselves, it causes me a deep distaste when it becomes an excuse to abuse others, or to stay within an abusive relationship. Especially with many of the threads posted it is quite clearly a vehicle for human beings to openly gossip about each other. And I view gossip of others much in the way I would view a vile poison, it spread infectious hatreds and mis-truths.

Especially for those inclined to believe such things, not that the posters are being completely untruthful, but they are not always being completely honest either, and where it most counts in many instances- with their spouse or significant other and others they love.

I have no real issue with the beliefs themselves of twinflames, or even the people having trouble with personal problems. I have issue with the lack of personal responsibilities and the lack of self esteem that comes from feeling the need to lie in cases where this is going on.

I take issue with the unhealthy thinking and aspects of what is describe as many do as what involves twinflames. Not the individuals, or beliefs.

BadCopyInc said it well enough too, without another point of view we'd all simply be the same and hold to the very same beliefs wouldn't we? And where would be the point in that?

Originally Posted by SaturninePluto

BadCopyInc said it well enough too, without another point of view we'd all simply be the same and hold to the very same beliefs wouldn't we? And where would be the point in that?

Assuming you're referring to this?

Originally Posted by Badcopyinc

I offer my perspective with the belief that we create our own reality and self truths. It is not for me to tell anyone what is wrong or right because then I'm trying to impart my reality into theirs. At that point I'm trying to correct what i view as a flaw in them to make myself feel better. This is only a deeper issue in myself that needs to be addressed. The more i understand myself the more i understand others, the more i understand love.

You're in disagreement with me because you think your reality is the only true one. And everyone else that doesn't agree with yours is wrong. At one point we believed the world is flat and that Earth was the center of the universe? If we all subscribed one individuals beliefs then we would still believe those things as true. We would be incapable of evolving physically and mentally with the thought that there is only one truth.

I've been guilty of what Baile brought up as well. Knowing and practicing Spirituality is what i think people misunderstand. I can talk about all I've learned for hours and hours. and use my past to point out others flaws during the whole conversation. But I'm here to grow and be better and for me personally I cant do that by not keeping an open mind. And also checking myself when my ego convinces me I'm better than another.

[shoni7510]

Originally Posted by Baile

I believe in soul mates, and I neither believe nor disbelieve in twin flames.

I mostly post when I see TF theory being used as justification for one's continued dysfunctional behavior. One scenario that's becoming prevalent: people who commit emotional adultery with their so-called TF but don't bother telling their marriage partner. And then deflecting all responsibility for their behavior: "It's a TF thing. It's a spiritual connection. I didn't ask for it. I wasn't looking for it. It just happened. It's not my fault. I've done nothing wrong."

Nothing wrong you say? Then why are you sharing your emotional adultery stories online with strangers, instead of with your marriage partner? Oh that's right, your marriage partner would think it's wrong. Yes, you have a life partner, remember? The person you said "I do" to. So it's not just all about you and whatever you think is right.

When I see self-absorbed ego behavior being passed off as spiritually meaningful, I speak up.

Well said! The concept of twin flames exists but it is being abused by many people who are busy following dysfunctional relations for one reason or the other.