It found me!

[HauntedTexas]

Howdy, This morning, I went to sit in my recliner and on the floor immediately in front of it, was the "nurses guardian angel" clip, 3" of square metal, that accompanied my late wife everywhere in her car. It had been missing for about a year... To me, it was a verification that she appreciates that her kids, who I have remained close to since she passed 4 years ago remain connected. Yesterday, I had spoken, at length, with my emotionally fragile step-daughter and helped calm her through trials and tribulations. A little history, I flew the kids down here last summer, and as we sat talking, the strong odor of cigarette smoke came. My late wife always smoked, none of us did and none of my neighbors smoke either. In fact, it was only the 2nd time it ever happened. We even checked outside. I asked them if they smelled anything and they asked how I put up with that smell, (I'm a rabid anti-smoker), it finally hit them that Mom came by to say hi. After a life in the service of the elderly, comforting them through their last days, I'm concerned that she has not yet found her very deserved rest. How do I help her, or is this a regular happening, even with truly good people? Thank you for your time, Peace

[Tobi]

Obviously, I can't say as I can't see the situation.
But sometimes our deceased loved ones do come back to visit. They don't just go 'up there' and go to sleep forever.
Of course, it does happen that sometimes a spirit will linger and choose not to enter spirit-life, or be unwilling to for various reasons.
But the more likely scenario could be that your wife already DID pass on, but chooses to visit now and again. Many spirits do visit their loved ones at times, usually out of love or a strong bond.
The smell of cigarette smoke might be her way of making sure you know it's her....

If it was an unhealthy scenario for her, (i.e. she was a 'trapped' Soul, you might very well sense that, from the emotions surrounding her presence.

When you saw the item on the floor/smelled the smoke, how did you feel in your inner senses? Interested, accepting, a bit amazed? Or heavy, upset, disturbed?

I always feel that even if we think we are not 'psychic', we are probably the best people to really pick up on our loved ones. After all -we knew them and loved them. And in simple, heartfelt ways, and always with love, we can communicate with them, if ever we sense their presence.

It's not an unnatural or 'unholy' thing for a spirit to visit loved ones living on Earth occasionally. And it doesn't have to mean something is wrong.

Next time you sense her, tune in with no particular preconceptions, a light heart and unconditional love, and ask her. Ask her for a response (an emotional response would be easier to pick up) to tell you how she is. Then see what happens. If you feel her love, or anything nice, that means she is just fine. If you sense a little poignancy with the love, that doesn't have to mean anything 'bad' as it's a natural emotion. Those who have passed over still love and miss their families at times.

[Silver]

I read this earlier, and wondered about it and what to say, and now, after Tobi's contribution/response I'm thinking that because you're such an anti-smoking type person, you might take it as a negative thing / message that things aren't quite right, but it was something she obviously enjoyed in spite of the 'badness' of smoking. My son, who passed 2-14-10, gave me a sign -- at least I think that was him -- when I smelled horseradish on my way to work one day -- I was walking into the hallway that led to the entrance and there was all of a sudden the strong smell of horseradish which my son loved -- and there was no trash, no food wrappers or anything where the smell could've come from -- so I instantly felt it was a sign from him just to let me know he's 'alive'.

[Tobi]

The cigarette smoke could be a bit of wry humour.
She knows you hate it. She's saying "Hi, this is me....sniff this!" To really capture your attention?
Not all bad :)

[HauntedTexas]

Originally Posted by Tobi

The cigarette smoke could be a bit of wry humour.
She knows you hate it. She's saying "Hi, this is me....sniff this!" To really capture your attention?
Not all bad :)

Thank you all for responding. Her humor and our ability to make a statement to each other, without saying a word, was special. I will never respond in anger towards anything I sense is her doing, since her efforts will always be welcome. I can feel when she needs me to do something, usually involving her daughter, and each time I've called, it was necessary. Her battle with cancer lasted 2 years. With her 1st and only grand baby coming the same week she was allowed to travel there, 2200 miles away. She lived to see her 1st birthday. We bonded tightly, we cared for her 90 yr old mom, who had Alzheimer's, in our home, during her battle with the cancer and the 3 years before that. Sorry to ramble on... Peace

[Tobi]

HauntedTexas....that isn't rambling on....that is painting a lovely picture of a strong lady, and the love in your family.

[Native spirit]

haunted texas.i don't smoke but my mother did until the last 14 years of her life,my grandmother also smoked she knew I hated the smell of it.when she comes to visit from spirit I smell the cigarette smoke first,its her way of letting you know that she is around you, some times I smell violets before she visits to,
you don't need to help your mother she is fine she was just visiting you.

Namaste

Originally Posted by Tobi

Obviously, I can't say as I can't see the situation.
But sometimes our deceased loved ones do come back to visit. They don't just go 'up there' and go to sleep forever.
Of course, it does happen that sometimes a spirit will linger and choose not to enter spirit-life, or be unwilling to for various reasons.
But the more likely scenario could be that your wife already DID pass on, but chooses to visit now and again. Many spirits do visit their loved ones at times, usually out of love or a strong bond.
The smell of cigarette smoke might be her way of making sure you know it's her....

If it was an unhealthy scenario for her, (i.e. she was a 'trapped' Soul, you might very well sense that, from the emotions surrounding her presence.

When you saw the item on the floor/smelled the smoke, how did you feel in your inner senses? Interested, accepting, a bit amazed? Or heavy, upset, disturbed?

I always feel that even if we think we are not 'psychic', we are probably the best people to really pick up on our loved ones. After all -we knew them and loved them. And in simple, heartfelt ways, and always with love, we can communicate with them, if ever we sense their presence.

It's not an unnatural or 'unholy' thing for a spirit to visit loved ones living on Earth occasionally. And it doesn't have to mean something is wrong.

Next time you sense her, tune in with no particular preconceptions, a light heart and unconditional love, and ask her. Ask her for a response (an emotional response would be easier to pick up) to tell you how she is. Then see what happens. If you feel her love, or anything nice, that means she is just fine. If you sense a little poignancy with the love, that doesn't have to mean anything 'bad' as it's a natural emotion. Those who have passed over still love and miss their families at times.

Wow.. perfect way to put it tobi.... I totally agree.. My aunt who passed away on 9-11 always comes with this cucumber melon lotion scent. Weirdest thing because since I've been searching for some but idk if it's because I'm in ny but i can never find it... usually after i smell that she lives to appear in dreams and says a friendly hello. At first i thought it was just me being greedy and wanting her to be here with us but i realized they come by to just say hello and to let us know they are watching over us. Now that i realized that i can just feel when she's around and so can my wife who never was afforded the opportunity to meet her.

Also hauntedtexas funny that your late wife brought you the guardian angel clip because my aunt brought my uncle a gold rosary she wore the day of the attacks on Valentine's day non the less