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[7luminaries]

Darkness, I'm sorry for your pain.
Many of us have been there.
I look at it like this. I gave my all for a few years. But (at least in my case), in retrospect, I can see we were never meant to be together.
Not unless he could leave his culture, his life & his family behind. Too many insurmountable obstacles. Despite all the love.
But I can see that he was in my life to bring me back to life emotionally and to spur me on my spiritual path.
And I was there to heal him. And to see him and believe in him. In ways which others could not.

But to prolong the waiting, after all reasonable hope was gone...seemed cruel and unusual.
The love is always there, but things change.
Putting my life on hold for another who was not on board day to day on the ground seemed to be too dear a sacrifice.
Otherwise as you say, your heart is continually in & out of some stage of mourning. Mourning the loss of their presence in your life.

So I consciously withdrew, so that I could transform the connection from that of intimacy to that of a dearly loved friend.
After a gradual process over many months of healing from the separation,
I finally made the firm decision to no longer have an intimate partner connection emotionally within the love I feel for my twin, and it worked.

My heart was finally free to complete the healing process, and because the connection is transformed, the love is platonic.
Which meant I was finally free to love and bond with another in the partnership sense.
Six months later, I have finally begun to spread my wings.

Who knows? Someone has told me repeatedly that we may find our true soul mate, our life partner day to day, on the ground, right around the next corner.
Perhaps they are even right in front of you already.
Perhaps they were only waiting for you to be free, to step up, to take their hand and speak your heart.

Because prior to that, you were blind to all but your twin...
(who it seems [in most cases] is for bringing deep awakening and healing into your life, but who is not the one for a life partnership on the ground)
...letting your soulmate walk right on by...

Grieve your loss and be gentle on yourself...but don't lose heart.
Take your love & your lessons forward.
Above all...have faith...all is unfolding as it should.

Peace & blessings,
7L

The only thing I can suggest which the rest I wish to say has already been said (some even better than how I would've said it) is to endure. As tough as any time is, one must endure, as impatient and hurt one may be for the moment, endure. It's the key for character development and helps improve one's patience. This is one must have when going through troubled times in ANY field. A lot of people have faced similar (even to absolute mirroring) situation(s) so you must keep in mind that you're not alone. Every day someone out there loses a loved one (broken up or due to death), the only thing to help is Time and to get through the time needed to heal from such a situation is to endure, as hard as it is... it's all we can do.

Thanks for sharing your story 7L, it really does help to see I'm not alone...and that maybe it does get better.

I know in time it will get better. I just feel resentful....I do need to have more patience. Thanks for the help everyone.. I guess I just need to chill oout and focus on positive thingss and let the rest work itself out.

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[Dragonfly1]

Time to let it go......always in life there will be pain, nothing happens by chance..there is a reason for everything.....you can only live for today, she is just a memory now.....let it go, and live.....you can do it if you really want to....after 4 years she's not coming back......you've been in a relationship since then, why are you reverting back to that one?....perhaps the lesson is to move on and overcome the pain, learn to love yourself and be happy withing yourself, and not need another person to fulfill you........ask your guides to help you through it....take care and be well.......

I'm sorry for your pain I can feel you words it is so true, I think No real love between men
and women, Love does
not exist only in movies,
songs, and novels. But
sometimes good to dreaming
of something we can
make it true, live your life only as it be and try to forget her day after day you will forget the pain and you will meet a new love maybe it will be true.‎‏ ‏I hope that you understood me because I'm not good in English, I loved to sharing you my opin...