Empathy for others is my sole focus...Am i normal????

Hey, what's normal? My daughter just turned 19 and has never been interested in fashions or the usual media stuff she's 'supposed' to be into. Be who you are!!! Be honest and good to yourself and like-minds will come your way. Most importantly, as has been said, learn how to shield your energy and stop being so absorbant to other people. There's a lot of heavy emotional 'stuff' bouncing around and people will drain you without realising they do so. It's all well and good to be there for others, to have compassion... but if you don't look after your own needs, then you can'd do anything for others. This isn't being selfish, it's common sense.

[Deusdrum]

You are a blessing to those around you. Normal is irrelevant. Thank God for people like you.

Originally Posted by casper

Sorry, i didn't know what section to put this in...
Don't think i am crazy please but this governs how i live every day. It's the sole way
I've always felt like I'm different to people but in a strange way that i cannot put my finger on.
I'm very sensitive and empathetic...i can't bear to hurt peoples feelings. The feelings of guilt and regret, on the off chance that i do, is almost unbearable...even if it's just making a little joke about someone i can't do it! I can't bear to see other people sad either or being hurt by others - my heart goes out to everyone. If i see people sad or upset it makes me cry. I feel it is almost my job to comfort these people or lend a shoulder to cry on because no one else thinks of them and i feel some people were made to do these things, to comfort the downtrodden and reassure them...i believe i am one of these people!
I am 19 now but i've always been naturally kind since childhood and sensitive towards others. My parents and relatives have always loved this about me because I am a person who reaches out to people. Friends and others love me because I accept everyone for who they are. I love people but i do not talk much unless spoken to or absolutely need to (i don't know why....i suppose talking isn't the only communication. I believe in action/body language/eye contact a little more)

But i feel like a freak because i am a 19 year old who is not concerned about fashion, partying or material goods. I work for a charity because i've always wanted to work for a charity. But it is never satisfying enough for me...I was thinking of taking up more. I don't feel like a normal person because my focus and the way i am is quite different to most people my age i know. People my age do like me but have a different focus in life...i feel a pull from a spiritual side rather than a human needs side. I feel the pain fro others in the world...and don't feel pressures from peer pressure or other things. Am i weird?? :/

Hello there dear Casper
You aren't weird at all and you and I are actually quite alike.
I am very empathetic as well and I can't bear to hurt other people's feelings either even if it's just a simple "no" to somebody's question.
I often feel very bad for people even those who have done me wrong, treated me unfairly and etc.

You are just a very sensitive person, nothing weird about that. I am also super sensitive and my body is too. I can't stand negative energies...my body will literally almost go out if there is a negative energy around me that is too strong..

I actually think that you sound like a very beautiful and honest person. There should me more people like you in my honest opinion

I too am more focused on spiritual matters than things that most people my age focus on. I'm 18 ;)
I get along with people pretty well too and I don't speak much either to people because I am very shy.
Most people my age are focused on having boyfriends and money and things like that and don't get me wrong, those things can be great but I'm more focused on the spiritual as well.

So no, I don't think your weird at all. Just focused and very sensitive...and beautiful.

[Sapphirez]

*hugs* I think you're an extra good person and "awakened" more than most.. don't fret, not that you need to associate with just people your age, but you should know there are others your age who are spiritual and extra kind too.. they're just fewer and farther between since I guess most people are still asleep.. You rock and the world is lucky to have you.
You don't have to be a part of an organization to help your fellow mankind either.. it's great that you are, but I'm saying instead of joining 5 soup kitchens maybe just join 2 and try to focus on uplifting the other people you come across in daily life too.. it doesn't have to be a special place; there are many people whose lives you can touch.. and just by being yourself you are helping them

This empathy & concern should extend to your own energies as well.

We’ve been told by both organized religion & many in post-organized religious thought that to be of service to others is the Best Highest Purpose. While there is some truth to this in a larger sense, we MUST first attend to our own personal issues before we can be of any real use to others. Your own growth is your primary concern. As long as we are aware about not sublimating our own personal energetic needs to help others we can do both at the same time.

For each incarnation we choose various goals for personal growth. Your helping others is likely your chosen mission for this lifetime. Our growth goals & mission(s) are slightly different, albeit naturally overlapping.

It’s wonderful that you are already aware of these empathy feelings at 19. Move past the very limiting feelings of guilt & regret though about making little jokes about people. Having the ability to joke about our self & other’s foibles can be a valuable skill & productive release that acknowledges & celebrates our joint humanity rather than being mean.
✷✷✷ We are here to be FULLY human in all ways, not to be mythically perfect spiritual automatons. ✷✷✷

Part of being a natural empath which it seems you are is mastering editing what energies you allow in from the energy environment (all external energies). This is very useful & even necessary. Being a natural empath doesn’t mean you have to have all of your energetic doors or conduits open for whatever energies to come in.

You absolutely aren’t a ‘freak’ because you’ve developed interests that may not be what the average 19 year old has. It’s not only OK, but very desirable. Have FUN w/ life too. You're only 19 once. Enjoy it w/ GUSTO. Having real JOY w/ life's fun little silly moments (The less serious the better!) can be EXTREMELY nourishing for our spirit & make you a more capable person.

Check out Doreen Virtue’s work on Earth Angels. I’ll bet you see many things that describe you! Some of the info. is summarized from site & her $7 book, ‘Realms of the Earth Angels’ (Update of 2002‘s ‘Earth Angels’) Also on Kindle. You’re definitely a lightworker & likely an earth angel. There are various categories of earth angels.

Earth Angels-
http://www.spiritualforums.com/vb/sh...385#post343385

Who Are LWs? Doreen Virtue- http://www.spiritualforums.com/vb/sh...ad.php?t=21845

LWs' Spiritual Purpose- Doreen Virtue- http://www.spiritualforums.com/vb/sh...ad.php?t=21840

Hi from me too,casper ...as you read from the other posts, you can assume that many people do feel the same like you...so do I...first and very important thing is to not use such labels as "normal" and "not normal"...there are so many people in this world and so much different from each other... I know you mean that most of the people in our "modern society" are different than you but believe me they are not the only one living in this planet...stop to label and just accept yourself as you are with this wonderful gift in your heart...I think tha t each of us is just on a different step in the ladder and going on in his own speed...and to tell you,being like this, I feel even lighter and easier...just do not cheat on yourself, follow your inner voice and do not think much...it is as it is...:)...give a big hug to everyone and let it be light!!!...

[Sarian]

I think it's so refreshing to find there are people like you. I was like that all my life, starting at a very young age. I felt like the outcast or a freak even because of it. My daughter who is now almost 22 is the same way, a beautfiul, caring and compassionate free spirit who cares for those around her and animals and nature. She isn't into fashion trends, doesn't want to hang out with crowds or drink. She wears no make up. She's a country girl through and through. loves nature and animals. She has nothing bad to say about others and is quick to hush others if they speak ill of another.

Be thankful and proud of who you are.

[WhiteWarrior]

You are an empath, casper. You pick up other people's emotions like a sponge. It's unusual in the sense that only a minority is as strongly affected as you. With some mental techniques you can learn how to shield yourself somewhat, which will make it easier to get through the days. A freak you are not. Do you have any psychic abilities that you know of?

hey buddy, i am 22, please keep seeing through the eyes of your soul, your heart, your heart will never lie, but sometimes you have to ask about things a couple of times and really deeply listen. keep breathing into your heart, hopefully you never leave it. care for it, venerate it, oh how healing the love is flowing from there for you and all.

unconditionally love yourself first, all aspects of you, and pass that love on to others for all that they are.

the party scene gets old quick, especially if you are crazy like me and drop $500 easy a weekend.. don't ask lol.

two grey goose to the booth!

glad those days are done.

peace and love pal