How to be better at planning?

[sat2493]

Hi guys. I’m 23. I have had chronic planning issues. I’m living with my parents, after graduating college. I’m asking from a place of anxiety and burden, but also from a place of enough is enough.


To detail my past attempts, I usually have tried adopting some standard planning templates that used urgency/important categories, deadlines. I’ve also tried more lax, planning styles that simply used dates, and writing out less specific intents. I have used multiple planning and event apps (Google Calendar, Todoist, Reminder, etc.).


Normally, I set a bunch of goals and deadlines, but I wind up committing to a single goal at the expense of the other goals. I am poor at anticipating the likely hang ups I will encounter when reaching a goal. I wind up committing to that single goal, and pushing the deadlines on my other goals back and back. Even the goal to which I wind up committing, I finish it later. I find my instincts of being perfect to be so tempting, I choose to finish it at a later time.


At the core of this is a sense, this feeling, this huge weight, to perform perfectly. I don’t like that feeling, so I usually avoid planning altogether, and focus only day by day, and ignore the bigger picture. You know the results. Things pile up.


I actually consider myself to be a very hard worker, but not necessarily the most conscious one. I really would like some feedback towards how I can begin tailoring a planning style that matches my stage of psychological discipline, and cognitive abilities.



If you have been successful at planning, I would very much value your feedback! :)

[Honza]

I would try and tackle the anxiety and the lack of grounding. If you are feeling settled and grounded then planning is no big issue. I am a big fan of flower remedies such as the Bach Flower Remedies which can heal emotional and mental problems. Or try exercise, yoga, diet etc.

Planning comes from a healthy state of being. Heal thyself.

[sat2493]

Originally Posted by Honza

I would try and tackle the anxiety and the lack of grounding. If you are feeling settled and grounded then planning is no big issue. I am a big fan of flower remedies such as the Bach Flower Remedies which can heal emotional and mental problems. Or try exercise, yoga, diet etc.

Planning comes from a healthy state of being. Heal thyself.

Thanks, I’ll keep that in mind. Namaste :)

[dream jo]

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