Do we sometimes only get one chance to meet "the one"?

[mysterious]

Originally Posted by Nada

Mysterious,

I am curious and I am sure others are too.
What happen?
Did you screw up a date or something?
Why only the one chance?
How do you know if you are not going to get another chance?? (Are you dying tomorrow or is the other person dying tomorrow?)

Well I met this guy in a nearby town and was flirting with him and then he showed that he liked me also but he took something a little wrong, misunderstood a small thing. He was looking at me up close but my neck started to cramp up and I had to eventually turn away. This he thought me to be uninterested, but i wasn't and then later looked at me really disappointingly. Then that was that i guess, he kinda acted coldly from then on. I was thinking what to do before I left but wouldn't have the bottle to say anything anyway since I am not at my most confident in life yet and also fear of making a fool of myself since I have never done anything like that before like ask if he is available etc.

I see...
Ok,
If he was really interested in pursuing you and if he is the elusive "one", your mere turning away would not have discouraged him. -- Since you were already flirting with him.

Either he is very insecure with low self-esteem or he is not that interested in pursuing.
Whatever he is, he is not the "one".

We never really know who the real "one" is at the beginning.
However, to be considered as the "one", there has to be at least undeniable attraction and mutual interest.

[alamode]

Originally Posted by mysterious

Well just that the one and only for the rest of your life, hopefully. Thats the only type of love that should exist.

I like the romantic sound of that but if in reality one person dies way too early, I would hope that instead of "the one" that there is actually "the two" or "the three"...

Originally Posted by alamode

I like the romantic sound of that but if in reality one person dies way too early, I would hope that instead of "the one" that there is actually "the two" or "the three"...

Good lord... alamode,
Three??
How long are you planning to live? 200 years?

Originally Posted by Nada

I agree with Lynn.
Well said.

I have to also add.
We never know who the "one" really is.
When we meet someone who we feel a strong connection, we assume the person to be the "one.”

Like those fairy tales, Cinderella and Snow White meet their princes but the stories stop at the meeting these supposed "one". We never know how their unions progress as they deal with the usual life's difficulties.

Therefore, instead of grieving the missed chance with the possible "one", it is best to learn from it, keep living, and continue experiencing.
If it is meant to be, it will still be. If not, there will be others.

I'd also like to add that YOU are the ONE. No one else can be the ONE. You are the one. Once you realize that, the sorry and pain of not finding the "ONE" will go away.

I like Nada's post about fairy tells.

Yup, we never get to see the woman yell at the man for going golfing or watching sports or never get to see the man yelling at the woman for shopping too much! Got to love fairy tells. :) They only show the good side. Not the challenging stuff that shows whether or not it is true love.

[Tricia]

Originally Posted by Nada

That is amazing and beautiful story...
Thanks for sharing.

Thanks Nada, yes, it was pretty amazing how it came about :)