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Gosh... Overall I'm doing really great. It's difficult at times, but I'm coping okayish. Continuing with things in life, my goals, doing some FB challenges. All in all I feel I'm going through a major transformation.
I can be happy, I laugh, I can enjoy myself. But deep down I'm still in pain. And today, and especially tonight, it is hitting me really bad. I'm in so much pain, bawling my eyes out. I so don't want this chit, and I don't want this breakup. I love him so much, and it hurts. I know I gotta trust, surrender and bladiblab. I know either someone else will come along and it will be great, or me and him will get back together and it will be great. And that's great. But right now it doesn't really help me. I just feel like a child who wants to kick and scream, because it just isn't fair. And I know that is childish, but knowing all that, doesn't ease the pain. And I'm angry at him at times too now. I thought I was skipping that phase, I guess not. I just cannot understand it, and I guess I never will. Totally beyond me how someone can be totally happy and in love, have this intense love for me showing from his every pore, yet then meet someone else and develop feelings for her? I do not get it. And that's the bit that hurts the most. I'm just going to cry and feel sorry for myself for a bit. And be PO as well, lol. So wonderful to know that there will be a higher reason for this, that my HS or Spirit or whomever is in control up there arranged for this to happen. Then why doesn't any of them tell ME what that reason is, so maybe I can be at peace with it a bit more. And why don't I get a say in it? Cos I do not agree. More tears, great. I'm going to look so sexy tomorrow, puffy-eyed and all. I'm too old for this broken heart cr@p. |
Oh my dear Fairy, I feel for you so much :icon_frown: I know of the conflicted emotions, the hurt, despair, anger, the trying to make sense of it all, the trying to hold it together; I can tell you it'll get better, that this too shall pass, and it probably won't help a jot because right now it feels like forever... but it will, Fairy, I promise - it will :hug2:
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I'm so sorry you're going through this ...hugs! But deep down inside you know why, it's time to rise higher. Your TF loves you so much, he's doing his part to help you both go through a deeper transformation. Cry and bawl your eyes out, but you're strong and you will make it through. I can't wait to hear your updates cause it's not over.
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Thank you both!
What you mean it's not over? Stupid thing is I know he is in pain too, I can feel that. Then why is this necessary if we both are suffering because of it? And I still can't shake this feeling we will get back together, but I don't know if that's just ego or real intuition. |
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Of course none is this is going to make it suck any the less, and I do appreciate how difficult/confusing/downright painful it can be, Fairy. Try not to overthink it, but instead stay with the feelings - meditate, journal, talk things through with a friend, do something artistic, listen to music you love, watch a tear-jerker. Whatever feels right for you :hug3: |
Thank you HumanBeing. I am doing my best to both move on and to allow the pain to be there so it doesn't surface later on.
Problem with what you're saying... it could indeed very well be that we both need to learn things separately. But if I hang on to that thought, I'm still keeping that door open and not truly moving on. I'm in two minds about that. Part of me wants to keep that door ajar, because in a way I cannot believe this is it. But is that wise? Some say I have the answers within, but I haven't a clue. Cannot clearly define between intuition and ego. One says I have to let go because something better is coming, another says he's in a lot of pain, up to the point of doubting/regretting his decision. I guess I'll have to figure it out myself. And I don't know either, haha. So I do what I can do, and am focusing on my future, my goals, my well-being, as much as possible. With periods of crying and hurting in between... It really is quite new to me. I've never broken up with someone with the feeling that it isn't the end. Sure, you never want it to end, because it hurts and you don't want to go through the heartache. But this feels different. |
FairyCrystal, even if it's "it," it's only for this lifetime, after all. You will meet again. Somewhere in the ether between dimensions, waiting to reincarnate again for the next karma-clearing lifetime on earth (or elsewhere). I imagine you and your Twin will laugh together about how silly you were in this go-round, all the things you got wrong, but also all the wonderful things you got right. Then you'll resolve to give it another go, getting closer to perfection--and, ultimately, ascension--in the upcoming life.
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Both of these voices seem intuitive to me... and both could be right. He may be in pain and he may be regretting his decision (and from some of your previous posts he seemed to have confirmed this to you)... but he did leave you for another relationship so it really is probably a natural response that he would feel this way...confused and in regret and that is something he will have to take responsibility for himself. And the voice which says something better is coming... may actually be your higher self speaking to you - guiding you. Also - grieving this loss and feeling the pain of loss is natural and healthy... and so is following that inner drive to peruse your own goals and move into creating the new for yourself... it doesn't have to be one or the other. You can also love someone without hanging onto them... and you can also love yourself to allow both of you the freedom to do and be what you need to for your own individual journeys... you can leave a door open if you want and also walk your own path with integrity - either the door will close in its own time or your new life will start to expand so much that the door may become a memory...or someone will walk through it... or you will walk back through it...but for now just do you - walk your path and when something changes in the future - you can make new decisions from there... |
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