Purple Lemon
16-12-2016, 07:53 PM
Hey guys, just wondering if any of you could help shed any light or new theories on what's going on with my twin.
As I've mentioned before in other posts, when I broke up with him on New Year's Eve (don't even really know why in retrospect, as 10 minutes later I regretted it!) he shut down completely.
For a month I tried to get back with him, yet I never felt we were broken up and at first he wouldn't tell me. Later he seemed annoyed that I thought we might still be in a relationship, because he said, "Why don't we see how being friends goes?" or something even though I asked him several times point blank if we were still in a relationship.
I admit I was petty after I found out he had a new girlfriend a month later (even when our relationship seemed to slowly be moving forward a little) and messed up his character on the MMO we met on. He quit and I went back to playing. Later took over his character because I felt guilty and it was nice to have something of him, spent a ton of time and money on it making to keep it up to date. It was left to our mutual friend, technically, and when that friend came back he saw how strong it got and stole it from me. I went to my TF to ask if I could have the account, and he seemed like he would, but after talking to the friend, he snuck back into the game with the friend, even though he told me he wasn't going back, and he knew I quit because he wasn't playing and I lost his account. When I confronted him about it, he made excuses that he already promised others to play with them, and that's my first stage of leaving him alone for good.
We had talked off and on during the year. I unfriended him after I found out he had a girlfriend in Feb, and didn't talk to him for a while. I thought then I'd be good, but after all that anger wore off, I missed him terrible and friend requested him again on most of our old places. He accepted - I was surprised, though we didn't talk. Finally I screwed up the courage to talk to him a bit, and he did reply. We chatted occasionally about inconsequential things until the new girl he was with broke up with him, then he suddenly disappeared off the radar. The only place I saw him was on the PS4 but I was never really comfortable talking on there. After a few more months of me chasing and him ignoring or just avoiding logging on, I tried talking to him a bit on the PS4, but he didn't bother to really talk or seemed to want to. I told him I missed him and asked him to get on Skype sometimes so we could talk, but he didn't.
The incident with the game happened around the end of Oct/beginning of Nov. After I was upset from being blown off a friend asked him if he still loved me, and he said, "In the past" and then "not enough to be with her" and then that we were only friends. Even then he couldn't give a straight yes/no answer, and I don't know why. That was the last straw. He agreed to talk to me the next day (see how much he cared, he didn't even bother that day!) but suddenly I didn't want to talk to him. I guess I was a coward, I didn't want to hear him say it was over, or whatever else he would have said. He likes to smooth things over but usually in such a way that at first I feel okay, but later I have a ton more questions. I honestly don't know if he tried, because I hid. He didn't try hard, if he did try, because he could have emailed me or left me a message, but he didn't.
I've not spoken to him since, but I still feel like I can feel him strongly. I did go through a very bad period right after, one I'm just getting out of now. I do still feel like he loves me, but his actions and words confuse and hurt me, and don't seem like he wants anything to do with me.
One thing I've noticed, since making myself invisible on the PS4, I often see him sitting up late on nights he doesn't have work the next morning. Just sitting, not doing anything. He's 5 hours ahead of me, and sometimes I see him on around 3 or 4 AM my time, meaning he'd be on well into morning for him. I stalk him a bit, because I miss him, and I shouldn't, but it comforts me a bit to see him around. Yesterday I happened to notice he was on Skype for many hours. That might have been a fluke, but he really hasn't been on Skype for any substantial amount of time in forever. He probably and very well might be on both things to chat with someone else, but part of me wants to believe he's waiting or looking for me, even if just to catch a glimpse of me, or hoping I might see him and message him.
These are things I would overthink on, because they could have any and all reasons for him doing any of them. I'm not obsessing anymore, but I do wonder what you guys think or if your TFs have done similar things but come back, so maybe I have some hope!
As I've mentioned before in other posts, when I broke up with him on New Year's Eve (don't even really know why in retrospect, as 10 minutes later I regretted it!) he shut down completely.
For a month I tried to get back with him, yet I never felt we were broken up and at first he wouldn't tell me. Later he seemed annoyed that I thought we might still be in a relationship, because he said, "Why don't we see how being friends goes?" or something even though I asked him several times point blank if we were still in a relationship.
I admit I was petty after I found out he had a new girlfriend a month later (even when our relationship seemed to slowly be moving forward a little) and messed up his character on the MMO we met on. He quit and I went back to playing. Later took over his character because I felt guilty and it was nice to have something of him, spent a ton of time and money on it making to keep it up to date. It was left to our mutual friend, technically, and when that friend came back he saw how strong it got and stole it from me. I went to my TF to ask if I could have the account, and he seemed like he would, but after talking to the friend, he snuck back into the game with the friend, even though he told me he wasn't going back, and he knew I quit because he wasn't playing and I lost his account. When I confronted him about it, he made excuses that he already promised others to play with them, and that's my first stage of leaving him alone for good.
We had talked off and on during the year. I unfriended him after I found out he had a girlfriend in Feb, and didn't talk to him for a while. I thought then I'd be good, but after all that anger wore off, I missed him terrible and friend requested him again on most of our old places. He accepted - I was surprised, though we didn't talk. Finally I screwed up the courage to talk to him a bit, and he did reply. We chatted occasionally about inconsequential things until the new girl he was with broke up with him, then he suddenly disappeared off the radar. The only place I saw him was on the PS4 but I was never really comfortable talking on there. After a few more months of me chasing and him ignoring or just avoiding logging on, I tried talking to him a bit on the PS4, but he didn't bother to really talk or seemed to want to. I told him I missed him and asked him to get on Skype sometimes so we could talk, but he didn't.
The incident with the game happened around the end of Oct/beginning of Nov. After I was upset from being blown off a friend asked him if he still loved me, and he said, "In the past" and then "not enough to be with her" and then that we were only friends. Even then he couldn't give a straight yes/no answer, and I don't know why. That was the last straw. He agreed to talk to me the next day (see how much he cared, he didn't even bother that day!) but suddenly I didn't want to talk to him. I guess I was a coward, I didn't want to hear him say it was over, or whatever else he would have said. He likes to smooth things over but usually in such a way that at first I feel okay, but later I have a ton more questions. I honestly don't know if he tried, because I hid. He didn't try hard, if he did try, because he could have emailed me or left me a message, but he didn't.
I've not spoken to him since, but I still feel like I can feel him strongly. I did go through a very bad period right after, one I'm just getting out of now. I do still feel like he loves me, but his actions and words confuse and hurt me, and don't seem like he wants anything to do with me.
One thing I've noticed, since making myself invisible on the PS4, I often see him sitting up late on nights he doesn't have work the next morning. Just sitting, not doing anything. He's 5 hours ahead of me, and sometimes I see him on around 3 or 4 AM my time, meaning he'd be on well into morning for him. I stalk him a bit, because I miss him, and I shouldn't, but it comforts me a bit to see him around. Yesterday I happened to notice he was on Skype for many hours. That might have been a fluke, but he really hasn't been on Skype for any substantial amount of time in forever. He probably and very well might be on both things to chat with someone else, but part of me wants to believe he's waiting or looking for me, even if just to catch a glimpse of me, or hoping I might see him and message him.
These are things I would overthink on, because they could have any and all reasons for him doing any of them. I'm not obsessing anymore, but I do wonder what you guys think or if your TFs have done similar things but come back, so maybe I have some hope!