How to be free from desires?

[kralaro]

Asking out of care for my mind. Intellectually i know that God is taking care of me but still currently the mind wants to experience something.

[Miss Hepburn]

Do you think desires are bad, in general? Or,
Do you think some of yours are bad or wrong ?
Would it be wrong to desire money for more peace of mind, a relationship, a new home or job?
(Trying to get to the the bottom of this is all?)
Because desires have a creative power that makes the world go round...generally, imo.

'Care of you mind'? Wanna explain more? (You don't have to.)
But, to answer your question...I would say -
Being content in the moment with what you have. Desires will still come, but not as much.

[kralaro]

Thank you Miss Hepburn.

I'm not thinking in terms of good / bad, but having a detached approach to it. My mind has been holding onto a desire for some months. I don't know whether it's due to some external influence on my mind. By "care for my mind" i meant mental health, but now i think more important than that is that that part of my mind can be used for something better. I think i've full faith in God, so i don't need to bother myself with pursuing fulfillment of desires, i just do what needs to be done in the moment (i don't live minimalistically though), so *i* don't have this desire but mind does and i'm trying to do my mind's upkeep. I don't know whether i'm doing something wrong that i've been living with this itch. "Being content in the moment with what you have" is a great advice, thank you. "Because desires have a creative power that makes the world go round" Hmm i guess i can use the energy of the desire.

[HITESH SHAH]

Originally Posted by kralaro

Asking out of care for my mind.

Desires per se are not bad . In chapter 7 verse 11 , Krishna tells any desires which is not immoral or against any one, is me (ie God) . This u can vouch for yourself only.

Further how to regulate desires, here are some do's/donts which may help.
1.Keep distance with the person/place/object / thoughts which ignites desires .
2. Engage in good creative activities /thoughts / hobbies / occupation all the time which is not harmful to anyone or against anyone or is immoral
3. The key is to 'replace' desire with better desires & not to negate it .
4. Some of the other tactics can be to delay it , spread over time/people , criticize it (not scientific !!) , sublimate it .

[kralaro]

Thank you Mr Shah and Miss Hepburn for your support. I guess i've figured it out, that's a benefit of focusing on an issue :) and maybe your blessings too. A spiritual practice i had started was creating an energy i'm not accustomed of handling. Thank you, lots of love and respect to both of you.

[Altair]

I do not think it is possible. It's only possible to avoid triggers, or to postpone fulfilling desires (yet neither 100% honest) to the point it may go over into the next life. But ask yourself... why is there this Universe with all its infinite possibilities... and you and the rest of us partaking in it?

I have been on the path of abstinence... multiple aspects, things, experiences. Sometimes it's good, I gain insight, other times I wished I hadn't. The real fulfilment and fun, in my experience, is in abstinence and then giving in to desire, or at other times to feel a lot of desire but trying to stay in control. Freedom versus control, structure versus letting go. The real treasure is in transformation. It's all a game, and both your freedom and your control are limited. We are but pawns in this Great Game.

[kralaro]

Thank you Altair. What you're saying is for desires which one has the ability to fulfill but some desires seem very much luck dependent, e.g. someone desiring a compatible life partner. I'm learning to handle desires, seeming to me that better to focus on things in my control and do them well instead of chasing experiences, even emotionally.

[Altair]

Originally Posted by kralaro

Thank you Altair. What you're saying is for desires which one has the ability to fulfill but some desires seem very much luck dependent, e.g. someone desiring a compatible life partner.

Luck yes, next to effort and talent (in this case, what you've got dealt with concerning your genes).
I think effort is the most important factor, which includes exposure to as many people as possible. Since you have this particular desire, and mention ''luck'' (being in the right place at the right time) I imagine you're an introvert like me. Luck is related to effort, so I suppose you could meet more people, however this will tie in with ''chasing experiences'' which you mention below,

Originally Posted by kralaro

I'm learning to handle desires, seeming to me that better to focus on things in my control and do them well instead of chasing experiences, even emotionally.

[kralaro]

Thanks for the care Altair <3

Even though i'm open to meeting my partner but that wasn't the exact desire in my mind when i started this thread, was just giving an e.g. for luck dependency, as it seems a good example, as i find it miraculous that one's partner can be in any corner of the globe but still partners are able to meet. My perspective of partner is THE partner and not just anyone one is somewhat compatible with; so i was coming from that perspective.

Anyway though a desire had been bothering me for months and i wasn't doing anything to resolve it but after this thread i realized that i'm doing my spiritual practice in an incorrect way which was a supporting factor behind the desire as i've already shared in this thread. Then after that i've realized that even though i was talking about my faith in God but 100% faith was missing. Universe takes care of me as has been doing all my life and i've proofs for that, so why should i bother chasing experiences.

[Miss Hepburn]

How about not being free from desires ---but desiring something you really feel you deserve and believe can happen!

The Buddhists often think desires are the root of all suffering..not so....it's
the unfulfillment that is.
Kralaro - I never have a desire no matter HOW odd it is...unfulfilled.
Ya gotta know how the Universe works...and that's why I hang out a lot in LOA...to encourage
people to make their dreams come true.