what?

[bobjob]

I said elsewhere that the subject of mediumship is interesting in its own right but deserved a dedicated thread. Here's an opener for that.

What do you do expect of mediums and mediumship?
What do you consider as unacceptable in connection with the question above?
How close have you come to either?

Offer your thoughts and we can open the conversation from there..... edit: To encourage this I've since given my own thoughts.

[BigJohn]

Originally Posted by bobjob

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What do you do expect of mediums and mediumship?

From what I have seen, Mediums are at various levels of development, or at least most think they are. From my perspective, I suspect just about everybody, if not everybody can communicate with Spirit, which as far as I am concerned, means they can be used as a 'Medium' between 'man' and Spirit.

Originally Posted by bobjob

What do you consider as unacceptable in connection with the question above?

I suspect most people take what a Medium says with 'a grain of salt'. As for your question, it is ambiquous to me.

Originally Posted by bobjob

How close have you come to either?

I am not sure what you are asking.

[bobjob]

The question asked: "What do you do expect of mediums and mediumship?" From mediums I expect experience, integrity and honesty along with confidence in their ability but humility in their delivery; it's not about the medium.

I expect from mediumship uplifting evidence of the survival of my loved ones. I expect a message that links to me and a message I can link to. It's all about me the sitter.

From a healing medium and healing mediumship I expect a passive human conduit through which spiritual healing energy flows. It's not about the medium; the medium is not the healer.

[bobjob]

The question asked: "What do you consider as unacceptable in connection with the question above?" I find unacceptable a level of service that fails to meet the simple expectations I detailed elsewhere.

I find unacceptable mediums who ask questions of the sitter rather than tell them details.

I find unacceptable mediums who 'interpret' what a communicator is saying rather than delivering the message as close as possible to verbatim. By so doing evidence can get muddied by the medium's 'take' on what she/he is hearing. So-called interpretation can spoil otherwise good detail.

I find unacceptable psychic reading or psychic counseling masquerading as mediumship although I acknowledge a medium may sometimes use psychic ability to maintain a 'wavering' communication link.

I find unacceptable the delivery of information that is not uplifting for the recipient.

[bobjob]

The question asked:"How close have you come to either in connection with the other two questions.?" how close? I've experienced all the situations I've mentioned to varying degrees, the very best thru the very worst. Thankfully the uplifting sittings are the ones I find I think about the most, and I try not to think too often of the ones that weren't.

Jeez everybody knows what folk expect when they go to visit a Medium. Whether they get it or not is a different matter altogether.

You Know yourself when you are getting a true reading. What I regard as unacceptable is getting a load of Tosh when you've paid out a lot of money.
As for how close I've come, I did my research before paying said medium a visit.

ps.......The best mediums don't charge.

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by hazada guess

ps.......The best mediums don't charge.

They are giving me their time...if they charge that is just fine with me.
Their time is worth it, they have expenses same as anyone.
I don't think this is what you wanna talk about, bobjob...but, once brought up I gave my opinion.

We'll have to agree to disagree then miss hepburn,they shouln't make a career out of this sort of thing.

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by hazada guess

We'll have to agree to disagree then miss hepburn,they shouldn't make a career out of this sort of thing.

Let's ask bobjob, cuz that $ topic has been discussed so many times here.
Now, another ''should'' has been brought up re NOT making a career.
Can you, bobjob...make a comment? Should it continue or be dropped?

Originally Posted by bobjob

What do you do expect of mediums and mediumship?

Mediums are not there to meet people's expectations though, they are there to deliver a message as accurately as they can while remaining neutral. Often what we expect and what happens are two very different beasties, and personally I never go into a session with expectations. An open mind is key and even though my human nature may not like the message, it's also about taking on board what that message is all about - regardless of palate.

Don't people expect accuracy of information, or do they expect sunshine and roses? Frankly, a medium who judges a message that's meant for me and changes it to suit their sensibilities is a waste of time because it's not the same message any more.

And often as with life in general, we don't always get what we expect but we always get what we need. What we expect is little to do with mediumship really, it's about us personally. But I take on board that you've said "Expect of."

I'd suggest a discussion on what's right and wrong as regards delivering messages, because that seems to be the bone of contention you have.