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Old 28-05-2020, 06:52 AM
JetBlack JetBlack is offline
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What do you value in a significant other?

What do you value in a significant other?

Pretty self explanatory.
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Old 28-05-2020, 09:43 AM
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Hi. Very good question. The one thing I value most is that I am always allowed to be the true me. They don't try to change the person they first met. I don't ever have to "pretend" or "conform" to the person they "want" me to be. In other words accepting me always for who I am.
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Old 29-05-2020, 10:13 AM
Pequena Estrela Pequena Estrela is offline
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Honesty.

Above all else I value honesty. It doesn't matter what flaws they have (well, within reason) but they have to be honest about it.

Honesty seems to be be extremely rare nowadays. Most people lie through their teeth. I've lost a lot of - so-called - friends because I discovered they were lying to me. So I left. No point hanging around if one discovers the other person is a lying hound.

The biggest liars are people who make a big fuss of constantly declaring how "honest" and "truth loving" they are. I mean I know we all say this sometimes because it's important, but I mean people who are constantly harping on about it. I've known people who made a big show of putting sayings about how truth loving they are on their social media accounts, only for them to scam others and commit the most heinous of crimes. It's always the way. Look at known scammers' online profiles and you will see endless declarations about how "God fearing" they are and how they are so "honest and trustworthy" and "value honesty".

All the pathological liars I've come across thought they were ever so smart because they managed to deceive me, and that I was stupid.

What they didn't know was - I always found out they were lying.

I just didn't tell them. Because there's no point - it would achieve nothing other than them getting even more cunning with their next victim, and the next victim not standing a chance of discovering they are being lied to.

So I simply left. It's all one can do once one finds out a person who is supposed to be a friend is lying. Just leave, no explanation is necessary.
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Old 29-05-2020, 11:08 AM
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I value the fact that we are all living and each is trying to do to their best, even if some do not know how to do it.
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Old 29-05-2020, 11:27 AM
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If it's self-explanatory, why ask?
The only part that's self-explanatory is what most come up with: honest, loyal, blablabla.
That's superficial as no one is consciously looking for a lying cheating a-hole, and most people aren't lying cheating a-holes.
Yet most people aren't who you want for a partner, so what is it that makes the difference?
It's also logical you want chemistry and connection, but that still doesn't make up the basis of a good relationship.

What I find very important is that
- he has developed quite a lot as an individual, so he's mostly empowered, feeling comfortable in his masculine energy.

- Another, that requires the first... good, healthy communication skills. We have not been taught this at all, so we have to develop this when we're older and become aware of it.

- One more is ready and willing to commit to a relationship, to me.
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Old 29-05-2020, 02:06 PM
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If it's self-explanatory, why ask?
The only part that's self-explanatory is what most come up with: honest, loyal, blablabla.
I agree, if it was self-explanatory it'd really defeat the whole purpose of behind the question being asked in their own statement. That, and it's also kind've beating around the bush for them to say that while expecting others to say their reasons "why".
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Old 29-05-2020, 04:50 PM
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I got the self explanatory to mean that they didn't need to expand on their question. Not that the ideal in a relationship is self explanatory. Anyway, could be wrong. I've posted this before which I like:

The Invitation by Oriah

It doesn’t interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me
how old you are.
I want to know
if you will risk
looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me
what planets are
squaring your moon...
I want to know
if you have touched
the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.
I want to know
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.
I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.
It doesn’t interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.
I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
“Yes.”
It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.
It doesn’t interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.
I want to know
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments.

By Oriah © Mountain Dreaming,
from the book The Invitation
published by HarperONE, San Francisco,
1999 All rights reserved
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Old 29-05-2020, 11:58 PM
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Cool your jets guys, by self-explanatory i assume is meant by what the thread title is about, nothing complicated from that. That simple.

Traits i value: Sadistic, revengeful, compulsive liar, doesn't play that, knows voodoo and is willing to show me how to cast spells.
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Old 30-05-2020, 03:35 AM
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Traits i value: Sadistic, revengeful, compulsive liar, doesn't play that, knows voodoo and is willing to show me how to cast spells.

Sounds like your ex was a keeper.: p
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Old 30-05-2020, 06:23 AM
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Sounds like your ex was a keeper.: p

Most definitely. Poor thing, she hated the sun. Could never understand why. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dM7wE4PSUII


Don't think i'd care much for the goody two shoes type anyway.
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