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Originally Posted by Elfin
...I mean , it IS almost like a scene from "titanic".... Could I ask whether you were romantically linked to him prior to his passing?...or just friends?... Or indeed just "some-one" you knew?.... Please don't answer if it's too personal...
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I have said that myself. He dies and she lives and it is a tragedy.
The movie came out during our university program (4 year program) and the song was played at our grad banquet.
We did not date, but everyone thought we did or would until one day he lost it with me for no reason that I could ever figure out. He told me not to speak to him (not so nicely) and I said '' don't worry I will never speak to you again''. In my mind at the time, I thought '' this person can hurt me from now until eternity and this is ending right here right now''. I was hurt at a level that did not match who he technically was to me (a friendly classmate).
I actually ignored him totally for the next two years, but I would see him in class and in labs every day as well as social events. We never spoke again after that. He would come around and talk to my friends when I was around, but I ignored him.
His brother told me that he never found '' the one'', not even any meaningful relationship. The irony is that all the girls had a crush on him so how he remained single for the rest of his life is a mystery to me.
The first time I actually saw him was on the first day of our program. At the time, I had been in a relationship for two years (so not really there to check out guys) but when he came in the door, I felt some energy over my body and it was like someone said in my head '' he will not be just another face in the crowd''. This was in 1994 and I remember this like yesterday.
I actually had a dream with him in it last night, I woke up three times and went back into the same dream. It is like I saw him all night and was at that place with him all night. We were in our early 20s and in some type of retreat/camp for young adults.
I would love to hear inputs on this. thanks