Wanting someone, waiting for someone

[lamb1]

Is it normal, that I do not see myself with anybody and do not want to be with anybody than someone particular? I met someone really great, wonderful and realised that except that earlier mentioned person, there are other people that are very kind, good, valuable ect. I was deceived few times, or how to say it and I don't know if I will ever be able to love someone again. Isn't it kind of victim mentality?

[Miss Hepburn]

Or is it a 'Protection mentality'...a 'Time Out and Healing Mentality', giving yourself
time for clarity, etc.

[lamb1]

Makes sense
Thank you. A lot

[Baile]

Originally Posted by lamb1

Isn't it kind of victim mentality?

What is the question you wish to have answered, dear lamb? What is your heart's desire?



Your true heart's desire. All the rest is but a veil that conceals.

[Redchic12]

Lamb……” Is it normal, that I do not see myself with anybody and do not want to be with anybody than someone particular?

In my opinion, yes it is very normal and most of us here have gone thru the same thing but at the time we think we are the only one. No we’re not. Everyone suffers heartbreak and my psychologist friend said, many years ago, that it takes 18 months to two years to get back to something resembling “normal” after a death, divorce etc. And when i look back on my own life, I think she was dead right!

Perhaps this is a special time for you now to spoil yourself and nurture yourself and learn how to love YOU. Go get yourself a manicure, massage, new cut and style hair treatment and spend some time in nature where there are trees and a lake/beach, buy yourself a bunch of flowers. Why? Because ya deserve it gal! Learn to meditate, take a painting class, read some interesting books about people who inspire you and self development. Those are some of the things I felt helped me when I went thru a heartbreak. Oh and don’t forget to throw in a glass of wine…….now that gives ya a good lift!!! Ha ha

A good book I remember reading at the time was called….”Why women lie and men tell lies”. Yep learned a lot from that one!

Love the Rumi quote.

[Maisy]

Linking up with another person sure has a lot of potential positives and negatives. When the positives outweigh the negatives, we stay with them. When the negatives outweigh the positives we leave them. Some don't link up in a romantic type way at all like some monks and nuns. But they link up with others in different ways.

Humans are social animals and thrive with close relationships with others. We don't do well alone. But then those close relationships don't have to be romantic. Like a widowed grandmother being with all her grandchildren all the time.

People are really different from each other. Some more selfish and self centered than others. Some more prone to yelling or anger or violence. So yea I would wait and be patient to find the "right" one.

[lamb1]

Originally Posted by Baile

What is the question you wish to have answered, dear lamb? What is your heart's desire?



Your true heart's desire. All the rest is but a veil that conceals.

I don't know if I have questions, I'm afraid that I don't. I only have hard truth to swallow.

[Baile]

Originally Posted by lamb1

I don't know if I have questions, I'm afraid that I don't. I only have hard truth to swallow.

You're hurt dear lamb. I'm sorry. I hope you have someone around who at least gives you a hug when you need it.

Hug.

[Baile]

Originally Posted by lamb1

Isn't it kind of victim mentality?

lamb, if that is the true question you have, then what's the next question in your heart when I tell you the answer is yes?

[Baile]

That said, hurting yourself further by using terms like victim mentality is very unhealthy, so no, that is also not the answer to your question. You are a beautiful soul, period, that is all.

Perfect alignment / no contradiction.