just a quick question...

my mum passed away sunday night after years of illness and months of pain, she had liver failure and during her last couple of hours lost her speech and some motory movements. as i went to the toilet, i asked my nan (my mum's mum) to please not let her suffer and help us, about 5 minutes after i return to my mums side she said her first word in 4 hours..mum, and then she looked right next to me and said, my mums here for me, and she went. i feel so guilty for asking her to be taken. my question is how long does it take once a person has left us to be able to come through via medium etc?

as soon as she passed my aunt said she looked like her younger self, i couldnt see that until i found a photo of her, obviously at one of her happy stages in her life with my brother her first newborn and it was true she looked exactly this way when she passed, do you think people go back to there most happiest when they pass?