are you in a relationship or are you on your own?

[Belle]

I'm not sure ! The guy I thought I was seeing - well I was at his the other evening and the phone rang. He was more happy with the phone call than to see me and he jabbered on. Then came the immortal words "Belle - she's right here - no it's just a bit of fun!"

So, I'm not feeling inspired by him at the mo.

[7luminaries]

Alone by choice overt the last few years. Last in a relationship a few years ago. And almost no coffee dates this past year. Trying to get back into it but it's really hard to work up the enthusiasm srsly. I tell them that sex is only for those I love so as to be clear up front about who I am. But it seems many really just don't get what I'm saying... or they don't care or don't listen because it doesn't go along with what they want. Really have grown increasingly disenchanted with the whole idea and reality of meeting anyone who can actually take time to get to know you and figure out if they love you before frantically trying to press you to shag them. After just a handful of dates. ****snooze****

It's unsavory and unappealing and the impersonal demands for intimacy without love and without much time in getting to know me just leaves me cold. If they've a friendship or maybe a lifetime of companionship to offer, then that's something real. If it's primarily just sex they want and primarily just sex they have to offer, then I don't need that or want it unless I love someone, and so they've nothing to offer without time in and without building friendship and companionship.

If another can't see you as a person and as a friend first and foremost, them they'll never have you or your best interests at heart. It'll always be about what you can do for them and what they are getting from you. And you're always better off alone than with someone who doesn't see you and love you and actively support your highest good just as you are... and nothing to do with what they're getting from you.

[Honza]

I'm still alone; and happily so.

[Shinsoo]

Single~

Not exactly looking--more waiting.

I'm expecting things to really take off relationship wise once she learns to love herself. Until then, I think there is this black cloud of 'I am unworthy' and it scares suitors away. :p

Doesn't mean I don't try to reach out to others nonetheless.

[AandN]

I haven't been on a date since March 2014 ... that pretty much sums it up! I can't say I have been looking though. I was too hung up on someone to look. Someone managed to get my attention for about 3 months but I didn't like him that much.

[wolfgaze]

Riding solo, and I'm content....

[starling]

Originally Posted by psychoslice

Thank god I am single.

ditto

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[starling]

Originally Posted by escucharla

I've always been single. At this point I've come to the conclusion that I may never meet anyone and I'm okay with that. I agree with the difficulty of long distance relationships. There have been a couple of potentials, yet the circumstances and distance were never worth the hassle or heartache to truly pursue. There's so much I want to do and see in life and having a boyfriend/husband may hinder me from accomplishing them.

Pretty much me

[Priscilla]

A Solitaire - brilliantly standing alone yet connected to the greater circle. Exactly where I need to be and content.

[laluna14]

I am single and have been single most of my life. I wish I could say I am content but I'm still searching for my better half.