is healing just letting go?

[scorpius_rex]

is there nothing to "fix", but just things we need to accept?
once that happens, are we healed?

is the common phrase true "fighting will just make it worse" ,
and we have to surrender in order to heal?

These are overall questions/thoughts I have on healing, particularly healing emotional wounds.

hi my personal belief is that it is the last part and then it happens automatically, but there are steps before that, if lets say one is in grieving, there are all those steps one go through that even if it don't seem like it at the time, like anger, sadness, fear, is in it's way healing too - but one has to watch out so one does not get stuck in one phase of the process.

One can take "time out" in the fighting, one can say "well we can't solve this tonight" (if you are fighting in the evening) and "we have to leave it a rest", and then one can continue later on. Sometimes if one has too much emotions tied up to the one you are fighting with there are all these other feelings involved as well and it can block you from thinking clearly. Also it can take lots of efforts and so on, to be able to see the other one's perspective on matters.

One can always ask others, example through pray, to send healing to you, but one still gotta do the inner work it takes to truly be free/healed.

[God-Like]

There are no set rules for how one behaves where healing is concerned .

Some lose their self, their self worth, their voice and need to be heard .

Some have to stand their ground and stamp their feet where other's curl up into a little ball and lick their wounds .

Accepting how things are is a good practice, but when one truly looks at oneself, one knows their flaws, their weaknesses and their denials, their delusions ..

In this respect there is plenty to fix, plenty to work on .



x daz x

[scorpius_rex]

Originally Posted by asearcher

hi my personal belief is that it is the last part and then it happens automatically, but there are steps before that, if lets say one is in grieving, there are all those steps one go through that even if it don't seem like it at the time, like anger, sadness, fear, is in it's way healing too - but one has to watch out so one does not get stuck in one phase of the process.

Thanks A searcher, I really appreciated that. I think I needed to hear that, especially what you said how there's many "phases" to healing, like anger, grief, etc., before we reach the acceptance or "surrender." I sometimes get so caught up in trying to rush to the end goal that I get dissatisfied when it doesn't
happen as soon as I'd like it. But really all of the emotions and processing I do before that helps with healing, and it's apart of the journey. Thank you :)

[bobjob]

Healing doesn't always mean being totally cured of a troublesome condition. Sometimes it can just mean relief from symptoms, from pain, from stress or whatever.

Letting go may be part of the healing, however....

Based on personal experiences, letting go is what triggers the healing. There are no set timers given we are all different and also affected by outside circumstances.

[bobjob]

Originally Posted by Pea Soup

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I didn't see xxxxx giving any advice. I read an observation being made, a viewpoint being expressed......

Originally Posted by bobjob

I didn't see xxxxx giving any advice. I read an observation being made, a viewpoint being expressed......

..GOOD ...I'm glad he isn't !!!!!

[bobjob]

Originally Posted by Pea Soup

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I totally accept he was offering an opinion or viewpoint based on personal experience but that's not an unusual situation. However I didn't read anything appearing to me as giving advice.

Even if advice was being offered though nobody is under any obligation to take any notice of it.

Originally Posted by bobjob

I totally accept he was offering an opinion or viewpoint based on personal experience but that's not an unusual situation. However I didn't read anything appearing to me as giving advice.

Even if advice was being offered though nobody is under any obligation to take any notice of it.

That's ok... I guess you didn't read my pm. Not to worry.