help with women

[Wolf63]

I think you have to let them know the REAL you for them to like the real you. The facade may be interesting for a while but if there's nothing real there, I would start looking for the real thing. Let the real you shine!

[Silver]

Originally Posted by Wolf63

I think you have to let them know the REAL you for them to like the real you. The facade may be interesting for a while but if there's nothing real there, I would start looking for the real thing. Let the real you shine!

I think the thing about this is, the OP is on the youngish side, and for some, it takes forever before one feels comfortable in their own skin, whether it's shyness or insecurity, it takes time to build one's confidence and lots of experiences in life can set you back. It's a two steps forward-one-step back sort of dance throughout life. Learn to enjoy the ebb and flow of life's events.

Originally Posted by Il'Divino

i have this fear that if they get to know the real me they wont like me nor want me anymore. So put on this facade with the belief that since im not being myself, they can never reject me rite? Wel no. It all starts pretty well until for whatever reason they start ignoring me without me knowing what i had done wrong. Can you please tell me why a woman would ignore someone without even knowing who they are?

If I sensed someone was not being themself, I would deem them insincere and lose interest. Could that be it? Better to be yourself. Then whether they accept or reject you, it's because they do or don't resonate and "click" with the true you... not some trumped up version of the "fake" you!

Originally Posted by Il'Divino

hey people. Ever since i can remember, i always had this feeling or false belief if you ask me, that im missing something that women want. Worse i believed that other guys/men had it but me. Im 23 an ive never had a girlfriend and that hurts me a lot. It also hurts alot when i go for a girl and somehow i mess it up and next thing i see her in the arms of another guy. Sometimes like rite now, i do feel like crying because it seems like this thing is something beyond me. I want someone i can hold, kiss and make love to but i cant get it. I dont wanto be alone anymore. And worse, i have so many girls who like me alot but i just seem to mess it up somehow which only reinforces the belief that im missing something and no woman will ever love me. Please help me. I dont want this anymore.

That sounds really intriguing! No matter what conditions you are in you are still a lovable person. You seem still immature, I mean sexually, and I think you must change yourself. The world is not a bed of roses and you must understand the reality facing you.

Things are different from what we are told about or we read about. All are self centered though most talk about unconditional love. It is just in theory, my friend and all want self gratification only