Advice please

[Jillity]

I gave a tarot reading to someone via Messenge, and the person was very pleased with the reading. I thought that was the end of it, but now she keeps messaging me and it's becoming intrusive. She wants to chat and send constant messages, but I'd rather she didn't. My family has just been bereaved and I don't really want chatty messages from someone I don't know when it's the day of the funeral. I don't want to be unkind. Any help would be great. I have a feeling this sort of thing may crop up regularly if I let it. Are their any experienced readers who could give me some advice please?

[Miss Hepburn]

Being honest is always the best, imo ---"I'm busy" or I'm swamped - I have a lot going on including a funeral.

She'll find someone else to be chatty with ---you didn't sign up to be her bestie, ya know ?
Ya gotta be clear, kind and confident about your boundaries.

Or Ghosting ---just deleting her messages and never responding is a way to do it, also.
Esp, after you say, "I've got a lot going on." Then, just stop any communication.
Sounds tough, but, gee whiz.

[Redchic12]

Why not text her and tell her to stop calling as you are finding this very intrusive and inappropriate.

If she continues, then just block her number and you will have no more calls or texts to worry about.

You don’t owe her anything.

[Native spirit]

By giving her a reading she is now considering you as a friend

you need to be firm with her and tell her to back off.


Namaste

[Jillity]

Thank you for your replies. I'll ask her to stop contacting me.

[Miss Hepburn]

I thought of another sentence. :)
What if you told her she is a nice person BUT, you have many clients
you read for - if every client started
seeing you as a friend to chat with it would make life really hard -
besides the other things that you are busy.
Good luck with this - no need to hurt someone's feelings or create a stalker out of her! imo.

I would feel bad if I knew you had a death in the family (condolences) and here I was chatting away at you.

[Gem]

Originally Posted by Jillity

I thought that was the end of it, but now she keeps messaging me

I have no idea about cards and am not an experienced reader, but making clear boundaries up front is important. You do a service. You are there for that and nothing else. Let her know you are sorry for not being clearer about it being a provider/client relationship at first and you just want to clarify it.

[Altair]

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

Or Ghosting ---just deleting her messages and never responding is a way to do it, also.

Ghosting is not the way to go.

Originally Posted by Jillity

I'll ask her to stop contacting me.

[BigJohn]

Originally Posted by Jillity

I gave a tarot reading to someone via Messenge, and the person was very pleased with the reading. I thought that was the end of it, but now she keeps messaging me and it's becoming intrusive. She wants to chat and send constant messages, but I'd rather she didn't.

I used to do readings.

The hardest part about readings is people come back..... with the same questions and are given the same answers.

As for me, when the reading was done, I would collect the money and leave the room.... while telling the client good bye. If I didn't do that, they would stay.

[cryoldman]

Hi Jillity,

It's also hard for me to say "no" to anyone.
My excuse is I don't want to hurt their feelings.
But when thinking about it seriously,
I'm not trying to protect them but myself.
I don't want to look not-cool/cruel in their eyes.
And it turns out that I'm spoiling them instead.
(this happens with many parents who spoiling the kids)
If you have to say no, then do it (sure, calmly and politely).
It's the right thing to do. In fact, it's only thing you have to do.
And doing the right thing is always hard, isn't it?
And yes, it's easier said than done, I know.
Sometimes I myself could do it, sometimes, I still could not.
But it still has to be done anyway.

Hope this helps.