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Originally Posted by Green.Heals
I am on my life's path, and still doing this project is all of me, is everything I love with or without him. I am doing it for myself.
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I had to delete the rest as we're not allowed to quote more...
But you are indeed on your own lifepath, always, and if someone joins you on that path, that's great! If they leave again then it wasn't meant to last. Yes that may hurt a while but you're still on your path. You may get of it for a bit, then get back on it.
As you said, you don't want to latch on to something that doesn't exist like so many for years on end. And you shouldn't. It's wasting your own life away. And the one thing we never ever get back is time! Once it's gone, it's gone. No one is worth wasting years of your precious time on. And when someone doesn't want to be with you, doesn't love you that way, then spending time on them IS a waste of time.
Set yourself free, by which you set him free, and move on.
I too had to separate from my TF. Yep it hurt like hell. But so be it. When the window for him to return closed it closed foregood. I could feel that in my system and even though I was still hurting and needed time to heal, it felt like relief when the window closed. That was some 3 months after we broke up. No more hoping, no more stress, no more... Just the very clear knowing that not even had he wanted to come back would I have allowed him to.
That was quite empowering! Took me close to 2 yrs to heal (we had been in relationship).
Remember, always remember, everything is always in Divine order. That includes when something unpleasant happens.
Heal, recover, bounce back, get happy again!
I used to think "he was the love of my life!" but I stopped saying that. That's glorifying something that isn't true and with that giving your power away to something that doesn't exist, except for in your hurting ego perhaps. ANd it's a form of victimhood. Not helpful!
If he'd truly been the love of my life he'd still be here. The love of my life would feel that I too am the love of his life, so he'd stay with me through thick and thin.
He didn't. So I wasn't the love of his life, meaning he wasn't mine.
I going for that love of my life now :) With a great SM.
It doesn't matter if your partner is a TF or SM. What matters is that you love each other, feel loved, love, flow love, and feel happy and fulfilled.