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Old 13-07-2020, 12:35 AM
memo20 memo20 is offline
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Been single for 8 years

Hi guys, I just need a little pick me up. I've been single for 8 years. I'm 27 now. Practically my whole 20s. I feel somewhat discouraged. My saturn is conjunct my venus In my natal chart if that makes a difference. Lots of people my age that I know are getting married and I can't even get a guy to look at me. I've gotten better. I've learned to just go with the flow but sometimes I worry I'll never find anyone. My friends are all serial monogomists which make it incredibly hard. Cause I'm a serial single. Do you guys have any advice or inspiring stories?
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Old 25-07-2020, 09:55 AM
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My cousin was always saying she was looking for a man. She also kept saying she was desperate. It seems that because she came across as desperate it turned the men away. She would also say things that sounded desperate and wondered why the men would disappear. I am not saying this is you but it is something to keep in mind.


My advice is go out and have fun and meet people. Let what happens happen without trying too hard. A lot of times you are likely not to find the right person but try not to let it worry you. The main thing is you have fun and when you least expect it the right person will come along.

It might be a bit hard at the moment with the covid virus.
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Old 26-07-2020, 05:25 AM
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Do you guys have any advice or inspiring stories?

Nope.

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Lots of people my age that I know are getting married and I can't even get a guy to look at me. I've gotten better. I've learned to just go with the flow but sometimes I worry I'll never find anyone. My friends are all serial monogomists which make it incredibly hard.

Seems like a lot of people feel pressured to be in or seek out relationships. Especially if everyone around them is in one. I wonder how many people that claim to want a relationship are actually serious about it. Or are they doing it because they've been brainwashed to believe that this is what they should want. Or that this will bring them happiness and contentment. Why not consider what it is you really want and be honest with yourself about it.
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Old 26-07-2020, 09:01 AM
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I was single for a few years, and felt left behind as a result. Then I realised that I would be happier single than I would be in a relationship with someone just for the sake of it.

Relationships are strange- the harder you look, the less you find. They say that we save the best til last, and that's what's happening here. You aren't single because you aren't wanted, you're single because a good enough person hasn't been found yet.
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Old 26-07-2020, 08:13 PM
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I've been single all my life. Not by choice! Never come across anyone that would have been interested in me. Not once.

I'm not desperate, but I do wonder what it is. Would have been nice to have found someone. But no, been left on the shelf. Not even dusted down once!
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Old 26-07-2020, 11:22 PM
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Do you think that you know what you want in a relationship? Do you know what you want?

In my 20s and 30s, I dated tons of men and had few long-term relationships. But I did not truly attach myself to any of them. I always thought that I had not met the right one. In fact, I blamed the men for not being right instead of searching in myself for attracting them.

Now I look back. I actually met lots of right men. I just did not know that they were the right ones because I did not know what I wanted. Mainly, I was a shell of a scared girl who felt lost and was trying to fill what I needed… but never what I really wanted. So, I kept dating and waited for one to let me know what I wanted.

Even those that I had long term relationships were not the right ones but I cringed to them because I felt comfortable with them as they did not demand anything from me. In fact, they were lost as much as I was. They also did not know what they wanted.

In order to know what you want, you have to know yourself first. Once you develop a good sense of self that is solid, you can determine what you want. Then you can recognize a right guy.
Find yourself first, then you can find him.
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Old 27-07-2020, 05:23 AM
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OP you said you just go with the flow.. this is not how you get anything you want in life.. some may think to manifest you just have to think about it or remain positive that what you want will magically happen somehow.. well thats not how you manifest anything, thats the typical new age version of manifestation (Not saying your doing this idk), theres possibly plenty of guys who'd want to get to know you. you want a boyfriend then you need to take steps to get one.

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Old 28-07-2020, 05:28 PM
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Hi guys, I just need a little pick me up. I've been single for 8 years. I'm 27 now. Practically my whole 20s. I feel somewhat discouraged. My saturn is conjunct my venus In my natal chart if that makes a difference. Lots of people my age that I know are getting married and I can't even get a guy to look at me. I've gotten better. I've learned to just go with the flow but sometimes I worry I'll never find anyone. My friends are all serial monogomists which make it incredibly hard. Cause I'm a serial single. Do you guys have any advice or inspiring stories?
Thanks
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Hello.

I messed up pretty well ! I turned 30 and still not married (not why I messed up). Let's just say, I've been with someone for a few years, that I don't love anymore since a long time, instead of trying to make things right with the only one I've ever loved.

My point is.. Don't worry too much about it, couples are not always as happy as they look, and being single is sometimes better. You'll meet someone that'll rock your world !

Peace to you
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Old 28-07-2020, 07:43 PM
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I don't think it's about pressure from others. When you got the urge you got the urge. ''Pressure'' from others can only be effective if you already have some innate desire to do it as well. I never felt pressured to smoke or drink when others wanted me to. I've done/do those things but only out of my own choice. If you don't want to then others can't make you believe otherwise, at least that's been my experience.

I'm single too and early 30s. To be honest, I think it's ****ing embarrassing. I know that my body and mind are definitely ready for a serious relationship.
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Old 29-07-2020, 06:55 AM
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I don't think it's about pressure from others. When you got the urge you got the urge. ''Pressure'' from others can only be effective if you already have some innate desire to do it as well. I never felt pressured to smoke or drink when others wanted me to. I've done/do those things but only out of my own choice. If you don't want to then others can't make you believe otherwise, at least that's been my experience.

I'm single too and early 30s. To be honest, I think it's ****ing embarrassing. I know that my body and mind are definitely ready for a serious relationship.
I don't see why it should be embarrassing, as you said it's a choice from you. You're a nice and intelligent person, when you'll find someone you resonate with, I'm sure you'll have no problem.

PS : Since I'm 21 I'm in a relationship with no love at all, not ever since.. 6 years and a half. In a way, I feel like those people that married very young and divorce around 40, and have a second youth. In a way, I feel like them, and in another, I'm happy it happened during my twenties instead of my fourties.
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