Being in Love.

[Gem]

Isn't it remarkable the way love is meant to be according to spiritual words in no way resembles it?

How can someone be qualified to define being in love for all others?

It's obvious each couple has their own particular way which they themselves explored and sorted out (not without some difficulty).

I know the spiritual noise about love ... but in life it's more understated, and gentle, like a gift of flowers.

Is being in love the same as loving someone? I always felt a difference. It's like infatuation, blinded by seeing a person not for who they really are but seeing the person as we imagine our perfect partner should be.

For me until a year ago, being in love was always a very pleasant emotional laden feeling. Very intense, but it passes after some months.

After those months the feelings have to turn into 'love', meaning wanting to be with the other person, seeing yourself living together with them for an extended period of time, giving and receiving, forgive and being forgiven,... the intensity of it somewhat usually goes down.

If you don't move from phase 1 to phase 2, usually the relationship doesn't survive.

Recently I discovered another kind of love, which I don't quite understand myself at this point, so I'm not going to elaborate on that.

[Gem]

Originally Posted by Shabby

Is being in love the same as loving someone? I always felt a difference. It's like infatuation, blinded by seeing a person not for who they really are but seeing the person as we imagine our perfect partner should be.

Oh sure... it's like a song I wrote.

EVERY SUNRISE
I think about you Away for the day
I wanna write a brand new song on my own
But I think about you So I try to call
But a recorded voice says it’s not on I’ll write my song… about you

That’s all I can do Coz since I met you
You star in every line my words and thoughts too a love that grew
It’s a dream that came true This life for me and you
Now every sunrise brings a day fresh and new as morning dew … then it’s gone

Can I believe it’s true?
The moonlight makes me think I only dream of you
When you take my hand are you dreaming too
Or is this really what the God’s had in mind for me and you… all along.

Now I gotta be strong I’m no longer on my own
I have found a love like I have never known
And my heart was grown my mind was blown
My soul searched all through and space and time and then I found you… on your own

How strange it seems
If this is real I wanna know then what are dreams
Only in my heart do I know what it means
There is more to life than I could have ever been… when I think of you

So I think about you It’s all I can do
And every sunrise brings a day fresh and new… then it’s gone

Yes Gem...very nice lyrics. I love what is written between the lines.

[Gem]

Originally Posted by Shabby

Yes Gem...very nice lyrics. I love what is written between the lines.

That's the bit you read in.

Originally Posted by Stingray

For me until a year ago, being in love was always a very pleasant emotional laden feeling. Very intense, but it passes after some months.

After those months the feelings have to turn into 'love', meaning wanting to be with the other person, seeing yourself living together with them for an extended period of time, giving and receiving, forgive and being forgiven,... the intensity of it somewhat usually goes down.

If you don't move from phase 1 to phase 2, usually the relationship doesn't survive.

Recently I discovered another kind of love, which I don't quite understand myself at this point, so I'm not going to elaborate on that.

Yes it seems like stages we go through when we meet that someone special, but you got me all nosy about that love you hinted to : )

Originally Posted by Shabby

Yes it seems like stages we go through when we meet that someone special, but you got me all nosy about that love you hinted to : )

It's the kind where you recognize someone on a different level of awareness and you connect on a plane you just cannot explain. Sensing, feeling almost telepathically. Honestly I do not know what to make of it yet. It did hit me by surprise.

Originally Posted by Stingray

It's the kind where you recognize someone on a different level of awareness and you connect on a plane you just cannot explain. Sensing, feeling almost telepathically. Honestly I do not know what to make of it yet. It did hit me by surprise.

I can relate to that...maybe connecting through "knowing"?

Originally Posted by Shabby

I can relate to that...maybe connecting through "knowing"?

Yes, you just know that person. I'm still trying to figure out if it was out of a past life (although that was more or less confirmed) or something else. I was even going to do a past life regression but I chickened out at the last minute.

These are difficult things to understand and deal with. It goes and it comes back, usually when emotions from either side are involved.

It's profoundly different than the people that are with you in the 2 previous stages I described. The yearning is of a completly different dimension as well.

I'm going to quote something I read which describes what I'm feeling better :

"
When you meet your soul mate, you don't recognize the face. You don't walk up to that person and know by looking at that person he or she is your soul mate. Many times you are brought together by circumstances that seem like coincidence. It's about a feeling of being awakened. For me, I was totally taken off guard and, at first, was totally thrown off balance...like the rug had been pulled from under my feet. It is like you were asleep until you were touched by that kindred soul and then you are awakened and nothing is ever the same again. You now know that life before was not life but a dim existence and that up until that touch life was OK. If your feelings are so intense that it scares you and you run away, it won't last. I tried it. It felt great but it was also scary. I had never felt like that before with anyone...ever. There will be no denying it; you won't be able to get this person out of your mind and your heart. He or she is part of you now and nothing will change it. The thought of them will send chills down your spine. You'll know that even if you are apart trying to deny the feeling NOTHING that happens will change the way you feel. Just the touch of their hand on yours gives you a feeling that cannot be described. Being in their presence will give you a feeling that is unparalled. This person never leaves your thoughts or your heart. It will feel like that person is somehow imprinted into you now. A part of you that will remain no matter what. I believe that soul mates exist on a higher level of love. There is a strong connection that is present that is simply just there. You can almost communicate with that person without even speaking. You cannot always be with your soul mate either which can seem like a really cruel joke or something. Your soul mate may be married or there may be other circumstances where you cannot be together. In this situation, life can be quite miserable but you can learn to live with it. I am trying to do that now. However, it is not easy at all. There is a strong sadness and feeling of emptiness if you cannot be with your soul mate. There have been many times that I wished I never met my soul mate but it was never up to me. It just happened like it was something that was supposed to happen even though we cannot be together. It is very difficult for me to understand that and I question why I had to meet this person that I cannot be with. Fortunately, for me, I am very busy and that helps some but sometimes I get this sinking feeling and almost physically sick at the thought of never seeing this person again. Even though I cannot be with my soul mate as a partner, I was able to be around him on a regular basis for a while. Just being around him was better than not seeing him at all. It's been over a year now since I last saw him. It is very difficult and there are days that I feel like a part of me has died. The lights have been dimmed. I've always been an upbeat person in general but there is a sadness that seems to hang over me many days even though most people don't know it. I've gotten pretty good at hiding it from strangers and co-workers but my friends and family see it. You will absolutely know without a doubt when you meet your soul mate. You may not know immediately what is happening but trust me, it won't take long and you will know. For me, I was not even looking or thinking along the lines of meeting someone, especially in the situation that I was in when I met mine. I felt kind of emotionally ambushed but it felt really good. I will never be the same as I was before. I am happy that I met him and I am sad that I don't get to spend time with him at all. I miss him terribly and would do just about anything to see his face again, and just have a conversation of any kind at all! Maybe someday it'll happen. I've accepted that it may not."

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