A telling list and one worth reviewing carefully. Women are in general too trusting, too open, and often far too naive to try to suss out men's often very base and simplistic gaming for sex, simply because they are not coming from the same place.
They are thus even further hopelessly lost when trying to "read" conniving men who are determined to exploit them not only for straight up sex (with the consistent, routine yet "indirect" fallout of emotional trauma), but who are also pointedly trying to degrade them emotionally, per the psychopaths.
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7. Once psychopaths have you hooked after the "love bombing" and "idealization" phase, they then begin to devalue you.
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Interestingly, however, the devaluing of a woman's feelings, needs, and intentions is probably one of the most common behaviours perpetrated across the board by men generally if they are sleeping with women they do not love & to whom they have no plan whatsoever to commit.
That is, not all of these "common to all" psychopathic behaviours are innocent or charming, LOL.
Quite the opposite. Lest we think that it's any better on the receiving end to receive poor treatment from someone just because they are not clinically a psychopath...you might say all the rest have less excuse, eh?
That's why we have a name for it:
Gaslighting. Where you degrade and belittle someone whilst telling them they're crazy.
Now, on that note, check this link out
Also from
The Huff Post/Lifestyle section a few days back.
A really refreshing and spot-on article
written by a gent who is very much about owning his sh...stuff
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/harris...yle&ref=topbar
Now, most men aren't psychopaths..so why do so many men consistently steal this page from the psycho's playbook?
Ladies, we must take our heads out of our...out of the sand, LOL...
They are often doing it to continue to have sex with you and enjoy your company without any further regard for your needs and whatever you may be seeking in relationship. Ok, but why the "gaslighting"? Well, if they want sex and are able to get it freely whilst giving very little of what women need and want in return, then this predictably creates consistent and recurring conflicts in the relationship. In order to fob off the conflicts, men may unfortunately resort to "putting down" or "putting off" a women's feelings and needs for as long as possible, in order to continue to get the sex while skirting any discussion of what their real feelings and intentions are. Ok, but why? Because for many men, if sex and easy company is the primary reason they are with a woman, it isn't particularly noble or honourable toward the woman/women. It doesn't hold water under scrutiny or revelation...Thus, the need to turn tables and call the woman crazy or demanding or emotional.
Well...doing the numbers, we can see why.
If a man may seriously commit to only a few women in his lifetime, and perhaps marry one or two of them during the course of a lifetime, this means the majority of men's relationships with women (that include sex) are relationships where the men would in honesty say...
1) they do not love the woman/women they are sleeping with, certainly not enough to do more than have sex with her -- but who cares as love is no requirement whatsoever for straight-up sex, occasional or recurring, and...
2) they do not plan to commit to the woman or women they are sleeping with now or ever. Regardless of accidental pregnancy, etc., if a man does not want to commit going in, very little is likely to change that.
3) perhaps once or twice in a lifetime (which may already have passed), most men will commit or have committed; however, the odds against sleeping with any one man and expecting that you will be the woman he commits to are very low indeed (barring his expressions of love and commitment to you and his follow-through in action )
Knowledge like these articles provide allow for us to be better informed, to have more direct communication where we ask the hard questions up front, and to take better care of ourselves going forward.
I love being wide awake and I love the smell of the coffee BTW
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Peace & blessings all
7L