Is there a reason you came into this life if your parents were abusive?

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by inavalan

I guess everything can be explained by that ...
On the other hand, it might've been just a case of expectations:

• The thief expected to get money one way or another.
• The good man didn't expect any money.

• OR neither of what we said!!!

[Rah nam]

Originally Posted by Ginger Maynor

If you believe in reincarnation or that you have a choice in when you come back into this life, is there any reason you would be born to abusive narcissistic parents who scapegoated you? If so, what would be your "work" in this lifetime? Are you supposed to heal from it and realize your innate goodness in spite of the bad things your family is filling your head with? Are you supposed to learn to trust yourself and your own inner guidance? Is this something we have to keep repeating in each lifetime until we finally heal from it and can move onto something healthier in the next life?

Thanks.

There are many possibilities why someone is in a abusive relationship, sexual or other.
What might not have been mentioned so far as something like a vicious cycle of abuse. Where life time after life the abuser becomes the abused and the other way around. It is difficult to brake this cycle and easy if one knows how.
Then there is something I would call a circuit breaker. Someone who purposely incarnates into such a relationship to break the cycle; through forgiveness. The most effective tool.
Over the years I came to know many highly evolved souls who incarcerated into a abusive family setting. They do it because they can.

[lemex]

I don't think it is about parents but is about people. It is about all relationships. Something I now see important.

[Starman]

Parenting is one of the hardest jobs on this planet but it can also be one of the most rewarding. I really never understood my parents until I had kids myself. Then it seemed like karma came back on me for the way I was as a kid living with my parents.

We all know that genetics and other physical characteristics are passed on from biological parents to their children, but emotional and mental processes may also be passed on. Some people say they don't want to be like their parents but they still end up as adults acting some of the ways that their parents acted.

I have seen generational abuse, grandparents abused their children, and their children abused their children, and so on. People who are abused, unless they break the chain, can become abusers themselves. Breaking the chain of abuse requires a person to work on themselves. We give to each other the work, or lack of work, that we have done on ourselves. It starts early in life.