Why do we still get attracted to people who are not our soulmates?

[kris]

"Why do we still get attracted to people who are not our soulmates?"

Hormones make you do it.

[girlsearching]

Originally Posted by innerlight

You should, and this is just a friendly suggestion not a rule, but treat yourself kindly. Using words like, stupidly with regards to your actions keeps you lambasted with shame.

Its not the guys "low" vibrations" its your own low vibration drawing a match to it. No doubt to teach you to up your game and vibration.

This makes sense, the way I veiw myself negatively is refelcted on others as well.

[wstein]

Originally Posted by spiritualmountain

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(I admit that I am one of them. I still get romantically attracted to people who are clearly not my soulmate. But I wonder why my inner wisdom/Higher self is stopping me from doing so.)

Would like to hear your views about this....

-'romantic' relationships can be purely at the animal level. You physicality has the urge to reproduce and will look for a suitable breeding partner. Your inner wisdom may wish to explore this.

-Your soulmate(s) are not the only souls with attributes you admire and value.

-Not all journeys are for the purpose of experiencing what its like when things work out. Sometimes more growth is had by experiencing difficulties.

-There is no virtue in only being with yourself. Meeting and interacting with others is a reasonable thing to do also.

[RedEmbers]

I kept becoming attracted to the same types with the same emotional traumas in varying degrees for the benefit of soul growth.

They mirrored my imprinting and wounding until I was finally and slowly able to unravel the various layers of the core issues.

Perhaps, many of my romantic relationships have been purely karmic. I got what I knew which was a lack of commitment to myself and various kinds of unavailable people who mirrored my lack of commitment and emotional attunement to myself.

I can count three soulmates in my life, all of them are friends. They are the people I feel most like myself around. I feel at ease and comfortable with them.

I've hopped off the rat wheel now, I am simply not interested or devoted to people who don't or cannot love me They no longer seem attractive to me.

I meet too many spiritual people who are comfortable living in a fantasy world. They are fine exchanging pictures and being pen pals forever.

[girlsearching]

Why do we still get attracted to people who are not our soulmates? Over romanticizing the term "soulmate" and having low self-esteem is why I'm attracted to my so-called peferences that were never meant for me in the first place.

[Miss Hepburn]

Also, if you read even the first or second chapter of "Getting The Love You Want", Dr. Harvell Hendricks,
you'll see fast why we fall for people.

[utopiandreamchild]

Originally Posted by spiritualmountain

why do many people still get attracted to other people who are not their soulmates and end up in love relationships with them?.

I think the reason is because we are accepting of these people that come into our lives, if we weren't then it wouldn't happen imo.

utopiandreamchild

[txsha]

Every person you are with is a soulmate of yours, as we have many soulmates in life. Our family members, our friends.

As others have said, we attract those we are a vibrational match to. Each person you are with is here to help you grow and evolve. They make you aware of where you are vibrating, or what lessons you need to learn still, so you can vibrationally match with the version of love you actually want.

The best way to manifest your "soulmate" if you believe there is only one, is to believe that you are worthy of love, respect, kindness, care. Self love. And to learn from each relationship on the way what you want more of, and what you want less of.

[Mora321]

Originally Posted by spiritualmountain

...why do many people still get attracted to other people who are not their soulmates ...

Perhaps "soulmates" is a construct that does not map easily on to Earth humans

Consider that if parallel universes exist, perhaps parallel incarnations do also. As above so below