The very things that make me sick

I do not think it ever mattered to me so I do not think it was something I needed to go through, the 2 superficial things I feel I have been exposed to in a relationship in my past and present. First one out is that even if born with a silver spoon he wanted to very much belong, being entitled to upper class society. I think he had this strong need in him above all. He was very different from the rest of his family. I have thought if he originally came from the lower realms, had a look at this family and thought hell yeah I'm gonna be reborn in that one, they will give me everything I want. But who am I to say.

The other one was about appearance, looks, being perfect. Has made me feel sick, to be fair, as on me on how I should look as well.

I wonder if I was meant to knock some sense in them or if there was still a lesson for me to learn despite me thinking I had already in such cases learned it?

Any reflection on your own life and soulmates and what has made you feel sick because of what they valued so highly, and you didn't?