always feeling mentally/emotionally drained when in a relationship?

#1 07-05-2012, 06:40 PM

I'm a 16 year old male, and everytime I get into a relationship with a girl, i become so mentally drained its unbearable. The last girl I dated, as soon as I broke up with her there was such a release. I thought maybe this was either something higher telling me she wasnt for me, but idk... This girl I'm dating now... I really liked her yesterday before I asked her out and felt great when she said shed go out with me (I felt optimistic I might be fine this time) but now I feel the same drained feeling. It's not fun at all. I still like her though... Although its hard over how mentally and emotionally drained i am. Any ideas as to what's going on? It's not that I'm affraid of commitment. im fine with it.

#2 07-05-2012, 07:39 PM

I'm a pisces BTW if it helps any

Sarian · #3 08-05-2012, 12:46 AM

I don't know anything about signs and all that, but sounds like the girls you pick might be too high maintenance or too demanding or too clingy?

Liet · #4 08-05-2012, 01:05 AM

Whats the personality of these girls?

Might it be that they simply take your energies? or you allow them to take it...

#5 08-05-2012, 01:39 AM

im thinking maybe they do... because of my sign I tend to be attracted to girls that may not be the best for me... But We've only been dating a day. Iv never had an actual relationship for longer then 24 hours because of the stress. Im sticking this one out though since I really like this girl. The strain it puts on me though is really taxing.

psychoslice · #6 08-05-2012, 02:04 AM

This is the problem with the opposite sex, we feel we have to act in a certain way, and try to prove something to each other, just because you have a friend of the opposite sex doesn't mean you have to be some kind of prince or princess, just simply be friends, and whatever happens after that happens, its when you are trying to be something that you are not that you feel drained.

#7 08-05-2012, 02:12 AM

Problem is... I dont have to be something else with this girl. She accepts me, as I her.

psychoslice · #8 08-05-2012, 02:59 AM

Well what's the problem then ???.

Kaere · #9 08-05-2012, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Chrysocolla

I'm a 16 year old male, and everytime I get into a relationship with a girl, i become so mentally drained its unbearable. The last girl I dated, as soon as I broke up with her there was such a release. I thought maybe this was either something higher telling me she wasnt for me, but idk... This girl I'm dating now... I really liked her yesterday before I asked her out and felt great when she said shed go out with me (I felt optimistic I might be fine this time) but now I feel the same drained feeling. It's not fun at all. I still like her though... Although its hard over how mentally and emotionally drained i am. Any ideas as to what's going on? It's not that I'm affraid of commitment. im fine with it.

It could be as simple as it's just too much closeness. A lot of people feel drained around other people - empaths for one. We can take on a lot of the feelings of others - this can make it hard to know where we stop and they start. So you might try giving yourself an energetic "buffer" zone - I sometimes like to visualize myself wrapped up in cotton wool. It doesn't sever a connecton and you can still interact with the other person, but the energy bouncing around feels kinda muffled, if that makes sense. Then as you get more used to this girl, you can start to remove it.

Keep in mind it's all about your own intention here - I don't really believe I'm wrapped up in cotton, but it's the intention I put out there that works.

It's worth a try, at any rate. Best of luck.

nailspiritseeker · #10 09-05-2012, 02:25 AM

The last guy I dated I felt the same way, just completely drained. It was automatically a relief after I broke it off. Now I'm starting to miss him (or maybe the idea of someone) which is strange.

Anyway for your situation, I would say being a Pisces which is an emotional you may be more vulnerable to other people and their energies. Make sure your doing a lot of grounding exercises.