seperated from man like my soulmate i don't know what to do now

[Sparkle78]

Hi all. im a female 43 and i live in the UK. im a psychic spiritual person i also have mental health problems and no job at the moment still. i live on my own in my own flat in London. a psychic said before they seperate you from your friends and familly. now for about the past 3 and a half years i can't see all my friends and family and see all the people in my life and im worried about this now.

the problem has got even worse now because i had a boyfriend for about 3 years before he broke up with me and im just friends with him now. his name is joe. hes the only man ive loved in my life so far joe is the love of my life so far. joe is like my soulmate. joe has moved now and i don't have his address and now all of a sudden joe has cut me off on the phone and changed his phone number.
i still love joe and joe is like my soulmate. im so upset about this at the moment. now joe is not talking to me on the phone still i don't know what to do now and im stuck in my life now.
all i want is joe back again and joe to text me again everyday now. im on my own in my life. this is hard at the moment and i don't even want to wake up from sleep at the moment now. also i keep waking up feeling bad from sleep at the moment i don't know if its demons in my sleep or something im dreaming about at the moment still?
i think the devil has separated me from all my friends and family and maybe now joe now too as well im worried about this now. and joe is like my soulmate and its so hard being separated from him now i don't want to lose him. im worried about this problem now still.
i did my tarot card before and it didn't look good about it before. please can you help about his or any advice or suggestions about this now please. peace and love thanks sparkle 78

[Miss Hepburn]

I can only speak for myself. I have lost many many in my life.
I know now everything was perfect. (I was shown in 2 of those -'my life flashed before me' episodes ..I saw
the whole thing laid out and the perfection...think of an NDE moment.).
You say you are spiritual - so I will speak freely - we have one love and He wants us ...our hearts...our love.
These painful events can bring us closer to our One True Love and
help us see this world is indeed temporary to
seek What never ends.
You may not relate --but that is my input.

[lostsoul13]

Things may seem difficult right now but you'll get through this tough time- and you don't want to inhibit from a future soulmate entering : maybe now is not the right time but the matter could come up...try and find peace and rest a while; you'll take as much time to get over it so you may move on... If he's cut contact could be a runner stage... But if things were over with you maybe it's a sign that he's moved on...maybe you'll meet someone else if not your in the right moments to have time to your self...

I feel that you should make a decision now: you need to move on. As you are still friends a reconciliation is always possible. Even so it sounds like you need to clear down and start again. You're locked into the loss and he hangs heavy as a spectre in your day (and night).

And I hear what you say about being the only man you've felt you've loved.

This is detrimental to your self-confidence, self-esteem, interactions with others.

You could do something about it: become easy-going, happy-go-lucky; personable when you meet people: no expectations of what they should be (either man or woman), just being interested in them generally. Meditating to feel light and airy. Free and uncommitted.

This is a big ask (of yourself more than anyone) and will need persistence, motivation; a vision of yourself going around being happy-go-lucky.

On the other hand it isn't so easy for men to approach women these days in the UK now women have put up so many barriers - the latest you probably read being a law against wolf-whistling. So it's difficult for a woman to make herself attractive to a man without him taking a risk.

I'd suggest starting affirmations. Beware some of the soppy stuff you'll find in the section here, but the more classical ones. No reference to the past, short enough to uttered in one breath; highly focused on a specific objective; repeated many dozens of times per day. and with no expectations of time limits. They may take months to work. Follow them with sessions of visualisations going about town smiling, meeting people, doing things and so on. There's nothing to stop you doing other affirmations but probably best to stick to two until you're sure you can deal with them.

Once the lockdown is finally over, join classes/clubs of interest. I do "dance fit" and zumba and am involved with local musical activities. The idea is over a period of time to develop a circle of friends.

Recognise you have to start somewhere and the first step is that decision.

[~Lioness~]

Originally Posted by Lorelyen

I feel that you should make a decision now: you need to move on. As you are still friends a reconciliation is always possible. Even so it sounds like you need to clear down and start again. You're locked into the loss and he hangs heavy as a spectre in your day (and night).

And I hear what you say about being the only man you've felt you've loved.

This is detrimental to your self-confidence, self-esteem, interactions with others.

You could do something about it: become easy-going, happy-go-lucky; personable when you meet people: no expectations of what they should be (either man or woman), just being interested in them generally. Meditating to feel light and airy. Free and uncommitted.

This is a big ask (of yourself more than anyone) and will need persistence, motivation; a vision of yourself going around being happy-go-lucky.

On the other hand it isn't so easy for men to approach women these days in the UK now women have put up so many barriers - the latest you probably read being a law against wolf-whistling. So it's difficult for a woman to make herself attractive to a man without him taking a risk.

I'd suggest starting affirmations. Beware some of the soppy stuff you'll find in the section here, but the more classical ones. No reference to the past, short enough to uttered in one breath; highly focused on a specific objective; repeated many dozens of times per day. and with no expectations of time limits. They may take months to work. Follow them with sessions of visualisations going about town smiling, meeting people, doing things and so on. There's nothing to stop you doing other affirmations but probably best to stick to two until you're sure you can deal with them.

Once the lockdown is finally over, join classes/clubs of interest. I do "dance fit" and zumba and am involved with local musical activities. The idea is over a period of time to develop a circle of friends.

Recognise you have to start somewhere and the first step is that decision.

Thank you. This is first time I've seen you give good advice.