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Originally Posted by tabane27
I been with my boyfriend for 21 months but something does not feel complete but i do love him. Its like im still searching for something and its not here, like im held back. My instincts are drawing me away from him but i cannot budge, if this makes sense.
I feel stuck, would you go with your instincts or stay for love that has that something missing?
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21months.. this is about the time when we often re-evaluate relationship.
Because it is the time to make a decision - the decision to invest more time and energy into the relationship for the potential marriage.
No relationship is perfect because we are imperfect human and the life itself is imperfect.
There is NOT a single person who will meet every single expectation of one's relationship. None of us can meet that.
You have to figure out what the "missing" is.
It may really be about your own
unrealistic expectation about him or about the relationship in general. Is the "missing" something unrealistic?
OR
It may be something that is
realistic and that you may be able to find it with someone else who is more compatible with your emotional needs.
Take a separation from the relationship and let your BF know that you are having this doubt. Let him know that you love him very much (IMPORTANT) but that you need sometime alone to figure out about the relationship because he is very important to you.
The answer will come to you.
He may also be having the same doubt as you as well.