Originally Posted by Angnix
... I'm so crippled when people disagree with me on any subject...
...In the meantime need suggestions on how to find Intellectual and Spiritual peace among turmoil...
OK, start with this one thing.
And like all habits - it takes practice to break one you don't like.
Being crippled when people disagree with you is a terrible thing - let's say, it's very unpleasant!
So you'd have to develop a way to 'not care'.
Find something that works for you and practice it. Ha...one way could be the second you recognize
the feeling of tension when they disagree with you (even if you're right) is
1. Pause and focus on breathing
2. imagine they aren't so smart...and think "Oh well." Maybe feel sorry for them if that helps...better than being crippled.
3. Feel the feeling of confidence
that you understand something they don't
4. Feel the feeling of gratitude
that you have been given the ability to understand something they don't.
5. Or do none of the above and just practice smiling
, shrugging and walking away.
6. Saying something... dream up a line. "Well, gotta go, see ya later."
"Well, alright. Makes no difference, guys. Take care."
The main thing is getting out of there, but with a smile.
1 smile can change the entire situation that was previously awkward and crippling.
If you act
'easy-going', people around you will respond to that .
But, it is a discipline at first, like being an actor...till you see how it works and it becomes easier.
Be aware of your facial expression...be at ease....
fake it till you make it.
That's my input, anyway.. See of you wanna try it.
(See, what I just did?
I just made the entire post non-chalant...if you wanna try, ok...if not, that's fine, too ....take on that attitude