Stuck!

[Alec23]

For years I have dreamt of returning to the lands where I am happiest, where I find Joy in Existing, peace in the land and sea scapes, and companionship in the friendly people and the social gatherings they organise

But instead I am stuck due to political events in a dreary large city with poor damp weather, and people who are far to busy to make meaningful companionship

I have been “stuck” for a good few years now, and at 64 need to move on.

I don’t want to live with this perpetual irritant, I want the joy in life I have when the sun shines..

How do I engage with life’s lessons either to find peace where I am at, or physically move to more hospitable climes

I am totally at a loss (but far from despondent, I am happy #despiteeverything) as to how to live life to its fullness….

any observations are more than welcome! (for relationship reasons I can’t just pack my bags and move!)

or am I stuck in a pseudo happy place with the sure knowledge there are better places for me to be

[Redchic12]

Quote: if you can’t change the what, change the how.

I guess it means that if we can’t change what’s happening around us then we CAN change our thoughts about it.

Yeah easy said than done, I know. But I have used this tactic on a few occasions and it certainly has improved things.

Maybe you are like me. I actually thrive on change whereas most people hate change. So perhaps you could move house but only in another area that isn’t too far away instead of another country. Sometimes a little change can be very beneficial. It has certainly been for me.

Maybe cultivate new friendships as you might have outgrown the ones you have. Go on a long train ride to somewhere you’ve never been, maybe once a week. Get out of the routine that you are in and establish a new one, or none at all.

Just some of the things off the top off my head, that might work for you.

I’m sure other people will have some interesting ideas.

[Unseeking Seeker]

In my view, as long as there is either desire or aversion, even to the subtlest level, we need to look at the source ~ attachment to mind-body and outcomes that gratify it.

Given that what we experience in linear time has already been impulsed in the ethereal domain, our response, moment to moment, determines soul’s learning. Thus acceptance in tranquility.

As for changing the environment or situation … sure, but then we think, here we have a social circle, in a new place we start over … will it be difficult, lonely perhaps? Fears. Apprehension.

Given that we are soul having a human experience, in this movie, the need to change the script obviously has roots in identification with form. It’s not that we shouldn’t try playfully, nonchalantly but then that’s it. Embrace-release.

Just my view. Go with what resonates. Ask the universe.

[Redchic12]

Funnily I have never considered thoughts of loneliness, difficulty and fears. They just never crossed my mind. I always thought in terms of excitement and new interesting contacts and enjoying myself. But that’s just me, I always see the glass half full.

But one thing I have learnt as I’ve gotten older is that learning to JUST BE and disciplining your mind is probably the most valuable thing we can learn. It changes your life in a very positive way if you are on the spiritual path and I guess it improves your life in the physical as well.

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by Redchic12

Funnily I have never considered thoughts of loneliness, difficulty and fears. They just never crossed my mind.
I always thought in terms of excitement and new interesting contacts and enjoying myself. .... I always see the glass half l.

Ok, I would like to make this official...I did not open a 2nd account here as Redchic.

[Redchic12]

Great minds think alike!!!!


(Or fools seldom differ) ha ha

[thecatsmeow]

Try to imagine your other half changing their view about where you both live. Imagine them coming around to the idea of moving to be near the sand and sea. Hold these images in your mind every night and really believe they'll come true and they will. That's the kind of thing that Neville Goddard tells us in his books and it's worked for a lot of people.

[Redchic12]

Yes that’s true, it DOES work cos I’ve been doing it all my life.

[Alec23]

Originally Posted by thecatsmeow

Try to imagine your other half changing their view about where you both live. Imagine them coming around to the idea of moving to be near the sand and sea. Hold these images in your mind every night and really believe they'll come true and they will. That's the kind of thing that Neville Goddard tells us in his books and it's worked for a lot of people.

This absolutely changed everything, and I will shortly be back on track…

By Feb I was pretty close to depression, and I simply asked what would give me joy.. the rest is history

I do hope “the cats meow” sees this

[iamthat]

Originally Posted by Alec23

... But instead I am stuck due to political events in a dreary large city with poor damp weather, and people who are far to busy to make meaningful companionship. ... any observations are more than welcome! (for relationship reasons I can’t just pack my bags and move!)

If you cannot just pack your bags and move somewhere more congenial for you then you are indeed stuck.

But I suggest that the problem is not that you are stuck. The problem is that you are resisting your present situation.

If you really cannot move somewhere warm and sunny and sociable then all you can do is accept that you are where you are. So let go of your desire for things to be different. If you keep on resisting your situation, if you keep on wanting things to be other than they are, then you are stuck with this "perpetual irritant".

As they say, change your mind and change your life. Then you will find peace where you are at.

And if you are happy despite everything then be grateful for your blessings.

Peace