Stuck!

[Alec23]

Originally Posted by thecatsmeow

Try to imagine your other half changing their view about where you both live. Imagine them coming around to the idea of moving to be near the sand and sea. Hold these images in your mind every night and really believe they'll come true and they will. That's the kind of thing that Neville Goddard tells us in his books and it's worked for a lot of people.

This absolutely changed everything, and I will shortly be back on track…

By Feb I was pretty close to depression, and I simply asked what would give me joy.. the rest is history

I do hope “the cats meow” sees this

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@Alec 23

My parents lived in the center of an urban town for decades. They seemed mostly stressed out due to noise and air pollution, and the super-busy people around in a concrete jungle.

They shifted to a village around a few years back and there was a major change in them afterwards for the better. The noise and air pollution was gone, there are more greenery and trees around, as well as a lot of friendly, carefree and cheerful people around.

They also have a pet and a large garden now, which they did not have in the town and apartment they lived in then. The cost of living is also much lower compared to the town, and does not make much demands on their savings.

They seem much more healthier and happier now, and much of their stressed appearance has vanished.

Reading your post, I decided to provide this input to help make informed decisions.

[Redchic12]

Alec23. Another thing that would help is visualising BOTH of you smiling and looking at your new house by the sea and saying things to each other such as, oh aren’t we lucky to live in this place etc. see it, smell it, feel it. all this helps to create a new reality.

I know, cos I’ve done it for years.

Just another thought. You state that your wife wants to be in the city and you want to be by the sea. Well isn’t a relationship a two way deal. Don’t mean to be disrespectful but why not say to your wife that you have spent so many years being where you don’t really want to be cos it made her happy so how about she spend a few years we’re YOU want to be which would make you happy. Seems reasonable to me.

I feel most of us spend our lives honouring others, which is good but sometimes we need to honour ourselves as well! We tend to forget that.

Oh well just my thoughts of course.

[Redchic12]

Just thought on, my husband and I went thru a similar thing many years ago ie I wanted to go down south by the beach and he wanted to be in the city.

At the time, the kids had left home and we were living in this large empty family home. So we sold it and bought a small apartment in the city and a small house down south. It worked really well and we were both happy.

He would work two on and two off on a rig and I lived mostly down south, so when he came home he would come down south for most of the time but still had the apartment for when he had to go into the office. I sometimes went back to the city when I felt like a change or we had a social engagement. It worked brilliantly.

So if you are still in the family home, maybe that would work for you.