200 Golden Hadiths.

sky · #1 08-10-2015, 05:14 PM

I have started to read these today, I haven't read them all but those that I have read I have understood except No 74

Women may be married for four things,
Their wealth,
Their lineage,
Their beauty,
Their religion.

What about love, Is that not important in a marriage ?

Please Leave Me · #2 08-10-2015, 05:46 PM

This hadeeth was narrated by al-Bukhaari (4802) and Muslim (1466) from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) who said: “A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her religious commitment. Seek the one who is religiously-committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).”

There is nothing in this hadeeth to suggest that it is enjoined or encouraged to marry a woman for her beauty, lineage or wealth. Rather what it means is that these are things that people look for in marriage. Some look for a wife who is beautiful, some look for a wife who is descended from a noble family, some look for a wealthy wife, and some look for a wife who is religiously-committed – and this last is what the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) encouraged when he said: “Seek the one who is religiously-committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).”

note that women may be married ( not should be married for four )
Mohammad suggested that the fourth reason is most valid correct one
love was essentional in all those cases of marriages i think
it's just whom people choosed to fall in love with
based on weather that person was beautiful .. wealthy . noble . or rightous religious

sky · #3 08-10-2015, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Shadow Of A Knight

This hadeeth was narrated by al-Bukhaari (4802) and Muslim (1466) from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) who said: “A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her religious commitment. [b]Seek the one who is religiously-committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).” [/

There is nothing in this hadeeth to suggest that it is enjoined or encouraged to marry a woman for her beauty, lineage or wealth. Rather what it means is that these are things that people look for in marriage. Some look for a wife who is beautiful, some look for a wife who is descended from a noble family, some look for a wealthy wife, and some look for a wife who is religiously-committed – and this last is what the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) encouraged when he said: “Seek the one who is religiously-committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).”

note that women may be married ( not should be married for four )
Mohammad suggested that the fourth reason is most valid correct one
love was essentional in all those cases of marriages i think
it's just whom people choosed to fall in love with
based on weather that person was beautiful .. wealthy . noble . or rightous religious

Thank you for the explanation, if you don't mind I may ask more as I read all of them in the future.

sky · #4 10-10-2015, 06:20 AM

No 19.
"Protect yourselves from the fire, even from half a date"

Explanation please.

Free1 · #5 08-10-2015, 06:08 PM

The concept of romantic love we use in our western modern civilization is not universal. While love may exist in all societies, the emphasis is different in different societies and times.

It is also common to assume romantic love is the only and best foundation for marriage and creating a family, but it may actually be a poor basis for building a family.

Clover · #6 12-10-2015, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Free1

The concept of romantic love we use in our western modern civilization is not universal. While love may exist in all societies, the emphasis is different in different societies and times.

It is also common to assume romantic love is the only and best foundation for marriage and creating a family, but it may actually be a poor basis for building a family.

I agree. There are many countries in the world where marriages are arranged by families, in some, they are even bartered.

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Women may be married for four things,
Their wealth,
Their lineage,
Their beauty,
Their religion.

sky · #7 12-10-2015, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Clover

I agree. There are many countries in the world where marriages are arranged by families, in some, they are even bartered.

Do we realise how lucky we are to be able to make our own choices in who we marry/cohabit with and at what age we decide to leave the nest and move on. Free will is priceless.

knightofalbion · #8 12-10-2015, 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by sky123

Do we realise how lucky we are to be able to make our own choices in who we marry/cohabit with and at what age we decide to leave the nest and move on. Free will is priceless.

Very true.

Clover · #9 12-10-2015, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by sky123

Do we realise how lucky we are to be able to make our own choices in who we marry/cohabit with and at what age we decide to leave the nest and move on. Free will is priceless.

Yes, this I do recognize and I am very grateful. However, on the same token, although, we are very fortunate in the West to have these "privileges" we also should be respectful and be sensitive to other people's beliefs and cultures around the world. Many of these women are NOT suppressed, they are happy and accustomed to their way of living. They respect their religion and they respect their man. It has been this way for thousands of generations. The perception of freedom and happiness is different to everyone.

knightofalbion · #10 12-10-2015, 05:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Clover

Yes, this I do recognize and I am very grateful. However, on the same token, although, we are very fortunate in the West to have these "privileges" we also should be respectful and be sensitive to other people's beliefs and cultures around the world. Many of these women are NOT suppressed, they are happy and accustomed to their way of living. They respect their religion and they respect their man. It has been this way for thousands of generations. The perception of freedom and happiness is different to everyone.

Fair enough. If the woman is happy, that is the main thing.