Personality Types with Relationships

[AStites]

I've been exploring my own personality and how it relates to my interactions with people in general, and obviously effects romantic relationships.

I feel presumptuous to self categorize, but after taking several personality tests, it seems I fall into the INFJ category. In a way it makes me feel less hopeless in my journey to find my person, and sometimes makes me feel even more so.

Combine that with being a Scorpio sign and someone very sensitive to the moods and emotions that people give off I often eliminate men before I've even met them as potential mates, because I know our entire story in an instant. All the men I've had significant relationships with, I knew in the moment I heard them, or sensed them, or met eyes with them that they were mine. When I think back I can even say with confidence that I knew in the instances before they were actually there that I knew they were. So why should I accept a different outcome in the future?

The hang-up, and the subject of my other posts, is the man I was in a relationship with for over a decade. Of all of the whims or relationships I have had he was the only one that crept into the deeper part of my personality and understood it. I constantly struggle with wondering if he was a rest stop for my soul or the final destination, even though we have been apart for a while now, the connection has not faded.

Between being a unique weirdo, a Scorpio, and a true believer in twin souls, I fear that I may be out of luck on this life plain.

I don't know if I have a real question here, maybe just looking for people that can relate? Whether it is as a personality, or someone that questions the relationships that they have coming and going, I find I lack people that understand except for the person that is currently not by my side.

[lostsoul13]

I'm an IFNJ as well- withdrawn but out -going...these Personality tests are good over -all , helpful...im a Scorpio too and I'm just as you described but passionate and dominate...there's loads of people that are alike or have traits that can help you feel there's more to life and gain independence with you... Hey I'm one! We can chat any time you feel like it... I know what your going through I'm to emotional and it limits me , thankfully I have my twin flame and anything with my traits were diminished and lucky I was to have that part of the self ... As a twin it not biologicals but rather biological... If she wasn't in my life I'd be curled up scouting on my own , brooding away... When I'm single my curiosity of my traits are capitalized and I push away to go in the cool and dark places where no one can get me: I tend to hide when in conflict of the self ( I tend to talk to much or don't talk at all-when I think about my traits I wonder how I could have a twin flame but as a reincarnation of a flame there's nothing I can do but to live that life; if I was born differently I'd be asking for a limit... There's nothing I push further away than my flame - question plots that fall through- hard to be entangled because my heart isn't in it - I was born that way (there's so much pain involved in the finite's story in reincarnation- that being an infinite has to offer...both twin flame and I - that reincarnation is a pain in the butt! But we have to go on; live moves to fast and it's easy to get caught up in it- better be moving with it than moving against and making it worse...

Hang in there, Scorpio has a big name , and reputation to go with it - along with the trait theory I'd say life's a hard game -

[AStites]

I can identify with alot of what you described.
If your age is correct, then I met my ex when I was your age. I have known him almost 20 years. We were 'us' for most of that. We knew we were going to be us or in a weird limbo the other part.
It's hard for me to wrap my head around finding someone that will fill all the spots to replace his. If I don't replace them they will always be there and I don't know that is healthy for either of us.
I also saw a YouTube video describing INFJs and relationships, and one thing he said was that we have a tendency to lose our identities in our relationships, and that hit hard. I stopped being who I was and stopped using my voice. Anyone that knows me would say that me not offering my opinion is an impossibility. I know this period of time I have been single has been to rediscover this. I also am way over it. I am middle age, I'm in such a great place mentally and physically to be in a relationship. I guess self focus is the name of the game, but being in my own head this long is almost as bad as being in some else's exclusively.