Narcissist

[PastPilot]

I posted this inside another thread but it is something that really a question that should be on its own thread.

I deal with a narcissist and have distanced myself from them for a few years but they started portraying me on social media as the villain because I cut off communication (no contact). They speak of this often to anyone who will listen. I'd say they are fanatical about it. They state that because I no longer communicate with them that it proves I am a narcissist. Much of what they state I have done are in fact things they did and said. There is no owning up to their past actions. They are playing the victim. Their family understands who and what they are but outside the family, no one knows the truth.

As for forgiveness, I have forgiven them. They know not what they do. I hold no malice toward them. I never have... but their attacks persist despite me ignoring them. This has gone on for several years now without any signs of slowing down. They are claiming to be a lifelong victim of various people but their family members tell me this is done to create sympathy and to get revenge on those who they feel wronged them.

At what point does a narcissist evoke karma? Are they responsible for an affliction they were born with or was thrust upon them but seem to have no control over? Are their actions a test of tolerance for others? Are they souls who play the villain so others may experience and learn from them or are they just unplanned, running amuck, crying havoc, causing destruction for no purpose type of selfish people? Where and what is their responsibility in life?

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[Miss Hepburn]

These are some of the best questions I've seen about narcissists. They certainly are fascinating people having an incurable mental issue.
They can do a lot of harm, indeed, and I am sorry one is in your life!

I don't personally think much is an accident in life. For some reason this is perfect for you.
Could it be for you to learn detachment, compassion?
Ha, I think everything is, in MY life...to learn those and forgiveness.
Btw, I find people are smarter than we think; the things people say about us others do realize the source.
Good luck with this.

All I can say is I feel ya bro, really sorry you having to go through that. I've experienced both someone on the psychopath scale and one on the narcissistic one in my life. No contact should work eventually. Sadly the way they are wired is if there is a way in, through others (people or social media) they will be triggered and try to break through those channels. They're not built for "no contact".

As they are very much looking out for their image they want other people to think the best of them. As they love to project it is no wonder they are calling you the narc instead. Talking behind someone's back I too recognize, trying to wreck your image instead if and when they can. Eventually people, or most anyways I've experienced at least with the narc, will see through the lies.

I have wondered myself why this has happened to me (twice) as I don't think there ought to be so many of them around considering. I have cooked up all sorts of wild theories and speculations of course, as there is nothing wrong with my imagination, and want to find an explanation.

I have thought if they have reincarnated from the lower heavens? Or I have thought in terms of them being in reality highly advanced souls who like someone who has a severe handicap of some sort is reincarnated with the rest of us just so we will learn something from them, but what I don't know.

I have experienced I felt the true essence, spirit of a psychopath and then he did not feel evil, like himself here on earth, but that he had a good soul but I have no way of knowing if my experience was true or not. That actually helped me put things more at peace. But he has created a lot of evil acts I think in this life.

You are not alone, if that helps :)

[PastPilot]

If anyone needs to know what a narcissist is, how a narcissist thinks, what motivates narcissists to do what they do, etc., you should follow this person on Facebook: Lee Hammock, Mental Healness

Having lived with a narcissist and still being harassed by this narcissist, I'd recommend listening to this person's experience. He answers many questions like, Do narcissists know what they are doing? The answer is yes, they do.