Help with Unrequited Love

[pixiedust]

Love is not obsessive nor does it seek to own or control. I encourage you to take the advice of your loved ones
and doctors and also let this woman go. This too, can pass.

Best wishes,
pixiedust

What made you believe she was your soulmate?

[kundalinikid]

Originally Posted by irisa

´Unrequited love´

To take it all a little further...

What if, before you were born, you choose for this life you are living right now? What if you had a specific lesson you wanted to learn? Maybe about remembering what real love, unconditional love is for a human...to remember it? What if you chose the people you know in your life right now? What if you asked, before being born into this life, this woman you met to help you remembering? And what if this is the only way to remember it? What if she then said yes...wanting to help you? Wouldn´t that be all about love? Because how hard is it to hurt a person (by running and ghosting) only in order to help the other remember him or herself as a soul...as love?

And maybe it is the other way around as well. What if the obsessive and chasing behaviour gives her sort of an awakening as well? We just don´t know...and we shouldn´t...

You never know.

[kundalinikid]

Originally Posted by Tedmil

What made you believe she was your soulmate?

Oh, it's a really long story. I'm just not up for sharing because it's in the past at this point.

[lostsoul13]

So hard hope it gets better!!!

[lamb1]

kundalinikid, don't you have faith that what is meant for you will be yours? :)

[kundalinikid]

Originally Posted by lamb1

kundalinikid, don't you have faith that what is meant for you will be yours? :)

Yes, I still do despite all of this. It is really not right of me to invade her personal space when she is not able to communicate. I don’t believe she wants to hurt me. We’ve known each other since we’ve been teenagers, and I am now middle aged. Actually we first met at a restaurant when we were 6ish, and it’s just never gone how we’ve hoped.

I believe we speak all the time spiritually. She is much better verbally than me. I have always been better with numbers. She teaches me new vocabulary words all the time spiritually. I’ve lost track how many it has been. She’s also taught me how to use adverbs, which I’ve never used adequately.

She seems okay with the distance. I guess I am her escape from a bad situation, and she needs the spiritual communion to feel stronger. I am desperately lonely and want something physical. Maybe it will happen in due time?

Inside she is somewhat of a nurse to me. This she says is odd for her because she has never had this her entire life as a woman. By this I mean her desire to nurture a man. In that way she says I make her feel like a woman so to speak. We share secret desires in a spiritual way that lovers do. Both of us are very accepting of these little quirks we both have where a union that was more egocentric would tend to probably run from some of what we have shared with each other.

In a lot of ways she we desire to almost be more like the other both past and present in a lot of ways we both have shared. I just wish for some reassurance she cares physically, but this may be part of my journey to learn to feel and extend my spiritual senses.

More than anything though, it deeply hurts me that her soul/higher self pours on the love to me spiritually/internally. However, she has not so much said she liked me/cared/tolerated me…really anything physically. I just wish I knew what was so scary or freakish about me that she can not share a simple kind exchange.

[Peaseblossom]

Sometimes I obsesses over love. Not to the extent where the police have to be called in. I am actually self-destructing my self. And what am I told? I am told that I am not in contact with my Higher Power-which could be God, Jesus, Nature, the flowered picture on my wall, as I choose to define It.

While this answer feels like a temporary fix over my sometimes obsessions in life: addictions, trauma inside me, I believe it is the Truth. It all boils down to taking care of Self.

Hope you can find someone/something to help you with this because I feel it is a situation of actually something not right inside, and the action is simply the symptom of something bigger going on. Peace.