When to move out

My little brother is having a hard time right now, he feel unaccomplished and considers himself a loser. This is mainly due to him living at home and, because he switched majors a few time, he won't have his Bachelors for a few years. I also think it could just be his depression. Here's the rundown

- he is 22 years old, lives at home with our mom and aunt
- full time student, mostly online school
- part time job as a projectionist
- helps pay for groceries
- pays for phone, car, anything he himself wants

I keep telling him he's doing great, he's only 22! I know a lot if his friends have moved out and I'm trying to explain most of them are still more dependent than he is. Any thoughts? Maybe I'm biased and he is pathetic. Or maybe it's his depression acting up?

Tough age, normal to be hard on oneself when life can present as a challenge. Does he have partner, a hobby he enjoys? He sounds lucky to have a sister who cares for him as you do. We can tend to be experts at beating ourselves up mentally, and amatures at building our self esteem and confidence. What you are doing is correct, things will fall into place for him

Originally Posted by shinenz

Tough age, normal to be hard on oneself when life can present as a challenge. Does he have partner, a hobby he enjoys? He sounds lucky to have a sister who cares for him as you do. We can tend to be experts at beating ourselves up mentally, and amatures at building our self esteem and confidence. What you are doing is correct, things will fall into place for him

He has been with someone about a year now, hoping to move out within a year but he's having some surgery. Poor guy has a bad back and can't work most jobs so he's hoping to get a second once he's recovered.

I'll take coming off as a sister as a compliment, actually. Generally females are viewed as more caring and nurturing.

It's not unusual for those in their 20's to still live at home, mainly due to financial reasons, it's good he has your emotional support.