I hurt.

kays. · #1 09-08-2021, 04:55 PM

I am a woman of color. I am successful in my career. I am coming across dozens of scientific studies saying that women with my profile have higher risk of ending up alone, unmarried.

I am almost 30 and I have never had a partner.

I hurt.

iamthat · #2 09-08-2021, 08:12 PM

Hi kays.

I am sorry that you are hurting.

Can you provide any reasons why you have never had a partner?

Peace

Miss Hepburn · #3 09-08-2021, 08:24 PM

When you want something - I say never read anything that is negative about having the thing.
Read instead things like , "You can be and have anything you want - You create your own reality.
Be open and believe it's around the corner...Ask and it is given."

Read the quotes of Abraham-Hicks in the Manifesting and LOA section ...read several pages until it sinks in.
It is very uplifting.

*Be the person someone would love to be with . . be happy, friendly and confident - it's like a magnet.

Traveler · #4 09-08-2021, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by kays.

I am a woman of color. I am successful in my career. I am coming across dozens of scientific studies saying that women with my profile have higher risk of ending up alone, unmarried.

I am almost 30 and I have never had a partner.

I hurt.

I was in my 30s when I met my husband. So it can absolutely happen. I made a decision to stop doing the chasing and let the guys come to me. I also worked on my self-esteem because I realized that I was attracting guys who were afraid of commitment.

iamthat · #5 09-08-2021, 08:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

That's funny I hurt a lot more when I was in relationships!

Human nature is a funny thing. Those who are on their own may envy those who are in relationships, imagining all the joys of sharing their lives with a loving partner. And those in relationships may envy those who are on their own, imagining the simplicity of being able to live without all the complications and compromises of relationships.

Most of us get to experience both, and the fortunate ones end up in whichever situation best suits them.

Peace

#6 09-08-2021, 09:50 PM

have you tried to date online with those who are too into their careers? only a suggestion. that way you get each other? if there is a man of intelligence (not saying a man who is not into his career or do other life choices is of less intelligence, just want to add that) he must then prefer a woman of equal intelligence, interests than someone who is just looking for a suger-daddy, you know, who will only take advantage of them?

Ziusudra · #7 12-08-2021, 10:36 PM

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Originally Posted by asearcher

he must then prefer a woman of equal intelligence, interests than someone who is just looking for a suger-daddy, you know, who will only take advantage of them?

Hey,
What is wrong is looking for a sugar daddy? I am looking for a sugar daddy.
I have a lot to offer for his sugar.

Ziusudra · #8 12-08-2021, 10:46 PM

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Originally Posted by kays.

I am coming across dozens of scientific studies saying that women with my profile have higher risk of ending up alone, unmarried.

Try these:
Expand your zone of "potential partners".
So, if you were looking for a man in your ethnic group only, then expand that to other ethnic groups.
If you were looking for a man who have same education level, financial power, same "never been married" status, and/or "no children", then you need to be flexible with these check lists.

There are approx. 9billions people on this earth and 1/2 of them are male gender. You just need ONE guy.
You can do it.

First, believe in law of attraction and destiny.
If you keep believing that you can not find a right man because of your certain profile/status, then you are not attracting anyone.

Let us know how you do.

#9 13-08-2021, 12:46 AM

Hi kays. I feel you, I feel for you. Then again, before being of color, and a woman, what are you ? A living being, who's got love to give and love to receive. Simple !

Don't give up now !

BookieBook · #10 13-08-2021, 10:26 AM

I know how you feel to an extent but 'it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all' right?

Everyone is scared before doing anything more than just kissing a guy, but when people do it they don't know why they were so worried so much in the first place. Not all relationships turn out badly. My friend has been with her boyfriend for 5 years and they are still happy together.

Don't worry about things so much, just try to relax and enjoy things.